And now we approach the second word - UNDER -
and zero in on the letter "U" -
It would have been easy to use the word UNDERSTANDING, but something kept nagging at me while I contemplated this letter. I felt there was something more, something better. And then it came to me - UN - as in UNattachment or UNnecessary or UNable.
As a caregiver, and as a patient, it is so wonderful to reach the "city" of UNattachment. By that I mean. not being attached to the outcome. Rather, living in the present moment for whatever it is, experiencing the highs and lows, the pain and pleasure.
Have you ever been with someone who is experiencing the last days of his or her life? It is usually known to them before it is known to us. And often they have an UNattachment to the things of the world, focusing instead, most importantly, on family and the movement of their soul.
For those of us who face daily challenges of another kind - financial, relationship, etc. - being UNattached to the outcome of the situation provides a bit of breathing space. We are only human and can only do our best to change or rectify a situation. Remaining UNattached to the things of the world can become a valuable tool in creating inner peace. Yes, we all have to live in this world. The bills continue to pile up on the desk, the errands never cease, but trust me, that is reality. What is a step above and beyond the reality of this life is UNattachment to it and a connection to all that is greater, better, bigger and more profound.
UNattachment requires exercise of the heart and mind. Here are a few tips:
1. Spend a few moments alone with yourself - no music, computer, telephone. Listen to the quiet and the sound of your own breath. This will help you to re-connect with your spirit which has spent a busy day with the things of the world.
2. Create a ritual of peace - discover what makes you feel good. Is it music? Is it art? Is it a walk in the park? Love yourself enough to discover what it is and promise yourself you will provide the "food" which will nurture peace within your heart.
3. Protect yourself from those who drink from your cup, but do not replenish what they have taken. They will zap your energy - both physically and spiritually. Surround yourself with those who nurture and inspire you. They are your vitamins, so to speak. Get rid of the junkfood of poor relationships.
And remember, just as in the article above regarding volunteers, YOU weave the fabric of your life. It is you who chooses the colors and textures. You create the pattern. Step back and look at your fabric - do you like it? Is it becoming a tapestry of love and peace? Celebrate that which you love. Change what needs to be changed. It's YOUR fabric!
P. S. Thank you for your comments and suggestions. I really appreciate your input and it's great to connect with so many wonderful people across the country and around the world.