Wisconsin Conference Life Newsletter
December 7, 2022
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Conflict experts: ‘We give people an excuse to talk about things that matter’
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We’re accustomed to the highlyvisible roles ministers play in congregations on Sunday mornings and festival days and on occasions like weddings and funerals, when the church provides the setting. But what happens when the church becomes the setting for strife, not celebration? That requires ministry of a different sort.
That’s where the Revs. Dave King and Linda Kuhn have made their mark. Over the past decade and a half, the married Presbyterian pastors ministered to congregations experiencing conflict through their company, Sand Bur Consulting. (Sand Bur’s motto: Overcoming prickly obstacles to faithful mission and ministry.) They recently decided to retire and received a fond send-off from the Wisconsin Conference Conflict Transformation Team.
“They provide a non-anxious, calm presence,” said Associate Conference Minister Jane Anderson. “And both are good listeners and able to navigate difficult situations with skill, compassion, grace and ease.”
Dave and Linda shared with Conference Life some of the lessons they learned over the years working with congregations in conflict.
Conflict is inevitable, but no church conflict is irredeemable. “Anytime you have more than one person together, you have the potential for conflict,” Dave said. “It doesn’t have to be destructive. What we’re asked to do is help them learn to fight fair so that the conflict is productive, not destructive.” He added: “We give people an excuse to talk about things that matter.”
Conflict is God’s redemptive way of teaching us something about ourselves. “I grieved and was pained by churches that were broken,” Linda said. “We came to reassure them that they were not bad churches, that God was not punishing them, that healing was possible with God’s help."
Amid conflict, the Holy Spirit is at work. “We were surprised when the lights went off – when people hugged who were fighting with each other, when there’d be agreement where people had taken sides before,” Linda said. “They were times of wonder. The engagement and intensity (that accompanies conflict) is often when where the Spirit shows up.”
God can make something out of the worst of us. “We’ve been in churches that looked hopeless and felt absolutely hopeless,” Dave said. “We didn’t bring any magic, but while we were there they discovered God still had a purpose for them.”
Prayer is vital to conflict transformation. “Prayer is a huge part,” Linda says. “We honor the spiritual resources of a congregation. We help identify those resources God has given them.” Dave added: “One of the techniques we’ve used is to have a group write a prayer and ask the question, ‘How does God expect us to answer it?’”
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In this issue: scroll down to find these articles
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For Rob MacDougall, retirement begins with gratitude
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In a message to the Wisconsin Conference, retiring Associate Conference Minister Rob MacDougall expresses thanks for the opportunity to journey with God’s people. “I have learned amazing things from all of you and I will keep you in my heart and prayers as I move into retirement,” Rob says. Click to read Rob’s message.
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Exploring the Enneagram: A 6-week learning intensive with the Damascus Project
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Exploring the Enneagram is for lay leaders, seekers, authorized ministers and people exploring authorized ministry.
Jan. 30-March 12, 2023
$175 (lay leaders, seekers, authorized ministers)
$350 (if you’re exploring authorized ministry/MiD)
Now through Dec. 15, use code EARLYBIRD at checkout for 20% off the price
Leadership in congregations today is hard. It is more and more challenging to navigate change and respond with care to the many competing demands. Understanding your personality -- its strengths and its shadow sides -- is more important than ever before. When we know who we are, we are better equipped to work with others. In Exploring the Enneagram you will identify your unique personality type and gain insight into the personality types of others. This learning intensive on the Enneagram is meant to ground you more deeply in yourself, your relationships, and your connection to God.
By the end of this 12-week learning intensive you will:
- Understand the Enneagram’s 9 Types and the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that are the strengths of each type.
- Identify the shadow side of your Enneagram Type and learn tools to move toward greater wholeness.
- Apply your new understanding of yourself to your role as a leader.
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Fond du Lac pastor contributes to devotional series
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The Rev. Rob Van Ess, pastor of Pilgrim UCC in Fond du Lac, is among the contributors to “Ashes Alive: Advent 2022,” the most recent installment in a devotional series published by Parity, a faith-based organization headquartered in New York that builds bridges between the LGBTQ+ community and faith traditions.
The devotions are written by LGBTQ+ Christians from around the world who represent a variety of religious traditions and points of view. The devotions extend from Advent through the first week of Epiphany. Rob wrote the Jan. 1 entry.
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Unlock the mysteries of Faith in Faith Foundations
A 12-week learning intensive with the Damascus Project
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Jan. 12-April 20, 2023
Topics covered: Reading the New Testament and Introduction to Christian History
$325 (lay leaders & seekers)
$700 (Assessment Learners/MiDs)
Use the discount code EARLYBIRD for 20% off until Dec. 15.
So much has changed in the past three years that it is easy to feel adrift or alone in faith. What do I believe? Does God care? Who is Jesus, really? If God is a loving God, what do I do with all this chaos and loss?
If this sounds like you, then consider joining the winter cohort of Faith Foundations. This 12-week learning intensive focusing on the Reading the New Testament and Christian history starts Thursday, Jan. 12.
Those who participate will:
- Gain tools for reading and interpreting scripture.
- Meet like-minded believers on a similar journey of faith.
- Connect events from the past with God’s dream for our future.
- Ground faith in scripture and tradition within a vibrant, hybrid learning community.
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UCC Webinar—The Midterms and Beyond: A Path for Climate Justice
In this webinar, we will discuss the results of the midterms with an eye to what is possible for climate justice in 2023 and beyond. A full discussion of the midterms entails more than looking at a final scorecard of congressional contests. It entails assessing the power of young voters and voters who care about the climate crisis. It entails tracking the successes of state ballot initiatives. It entails bringing a lens of justice to the issues faced today. This webinar will equip faith-rooted advocates for advancing climate justice in the coming year.
Date: Dec. 14
Time: Noon Central
WISE for Mental Health
The United Church of Christ adopted the WISE (Welcoming, Inclusive, Supportive, and Engaged) for mental health covenant as a denomination in 2015 as part of our commitment to mental health justice. Join representatives of the UCC Mental Health Network to learn about practical resources for what UCC members and congregations can do to become WISE for mental health and create a more just world for all.
Date: Dec. 15
Time: 2:30 p.m. Central
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Spiritual practices can deepen experience of Advent
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Looking for a fresh way to observe Advent? Each week during Advent, Associate Conference Minister Rachel Bauman is sharing a spiritual practice on the Conference Facebook page that anyone can use to enrich the experience of the sacred season before Christmas.
In Week 1, Rachel introduced the practice of Lectio Divina. Introduced in the fourth century, Lectio Divina is a way of developing a closer relationship with God through prayerful reflection on a portion of sacred text. Click to watch Rachel’s video about Lectio Divina. For Week 2, she cited a bit of wisdom attributed to St. Augustine – “Those who sing pray twice” – to introduce us to sacred chant. Watch her video lesson here. Enjoy.
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Join us for two fond farewells
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Please plan to join us this month as the Wisconsin Conference says goodbye to two cherished colleagues, Damascus Project Director Tisha Brown and Associate Conference Minister Rob MacDougall. We’ll honor Tisha as she enters the next phase of her vocational journey in an online-only gathering at 6 p.m. Dec. 13. Rob, who is retiring, will have a hybrid send-off starting with a farewell worship service at 3 p.m. Dec. 18 at First Congregational UCC of Menomonie. A reception will follow the service.
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Please help the finance office. Send your special supports, association dues and other payments prior to the year-end deadline. This will help us process the large volume of final payments that arrive in the last weeks of the year.
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Individual year-end gifts. Contributions are deductible in the year made. Checks will need to be made out with a 2022 date and postmarked by Dec. 31 for credit in 2022.
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Churches' year-end gifts. Must be post marked no later than Jan. 6. Please indicate clearly that your gift is intended for 2022 by including a 2022 remittance form or clearly identifying what you are remitting for 2022.
Please send payments to Wisconsin Conference UCC, 4459 Gray Road, DeForest, WI 53532.
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Winter Soulstice a chance to reflect for youths, young adults
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By January, you’ll be looking for a way to beat the winter doldrums, right?
If you’re in high school or are a college-age young adult, the Wisconsin Conference and United Church Camps Inc. have just what you need – Winter Soulstice, a fun winter camp experience scheduled for Jan. 6-8 at Daycholah Center. You’ll experience faith in community, silence and time for prayer, connect with new people and hang out with old friends, and be inspired by the worship and music led by Nashville-based singer and songwriter Andra Moran. Register today for this exciting faith formation event.
Questions? Email Lisa Hart, associate conference minister for faith formation and justice ministries.
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Help others by donating now
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The General Fund of the Wisconsin Conference helps us connect, support and resource pastors, leaders, and congregations. Your gift allows the Conference to provide relevant and timely help during the pandemic and beyond. Donate to the General Fund
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Searching Churches
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St. John's UCC in Monroe is searching for an associate pastor. Details
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Salem UCC in Verona is searching for a pastor. Details
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St. John's UCC in La Pointe is searching for a pastor. Details
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Peace UCC in Brillion is searching for a pastor. Details
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First Congregational UCC in Boscobel is searching for a pastor. Details
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To see all searching churches, click here.
In Memoriam
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Susan Safford-Gaul, wife of Rev. Michael Safford-Kennedy, died on Nov. 24. Obituary
The Conference Transitions feature appears monthly in the Wisconsin Conference Life. Please share your transition information, including church anniversaries, with the newsletter editor by emailing Nola.
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The Kairos Call to Action Newsletter was created to support the efforts of congregations, families and individuals who want to be a part of the UCC’s Kairos Call to Action. Through this newsletter the Conference Creation Care Team will provide resources for study and worship, encourage advocacy on behalf of climate justice, and help congregations find and connect with partners who share this common concern and commitment.
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Renewing the Soul of the Beloved Community is a communication dedicated to sharing resources and tools, wisdom and insight for congregations and individuals navigating these challenging days. Created by the Conference Supportive Ministries Team, this publication will highlight resources to aid in steering your path forward.
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Ignite Your Fire, Feed Your Soul,
Build Your Faith... In Nature's Sanctuary
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Join the Conference-wide Creation Care Team!
Are you passionate about Creation Care? Want to connect with others who are taking action to care for the earth? The Creation Care Team's primary focus is to encourage, support and provide resources to congregations in the Wisconsin Conference as they do what they can to care for creation. If you would like to be a part of this team, or for more information on the Creation Care Team, contact John Helt. You can also go to the Creation Care webpage to learn more.
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Is your church considering an Open and Affirming Process? The Wisconsin Conference has a committee to help! Please feel free to use us as resources for your discussions and preparations. Contact Laura McLeod of the Wisconsin Conference UCC Committee on Ministry with LGBTQ Persons.
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Get Involved! A Conference-wide Racial Justice Task Force gathers resources and encourages congregations to engage in conversations around race. If you and your congregation are interested in participating in this group, you are welcome. Contact Lisa Hart get involved.
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This newsletter is made possible by contributions to Our Church's Wider Mission Basic Support.
Wisconsin Conference United Church of Christ
4459 Gray Road | DeForest, WI 53532
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