Dr. Patty Luckenbach
"Grief deepens you. It allows you to explore the perimeters of your soul. Grief is the only gateway to certain levels of consciousness, and it is a hard taskmaster. Through grief, you can explore every aspect of your dark side–anger, pain, abandonment, terror, loneliness, and these are aspects of the sacred wound that is our daily lives we usually try to ignore. Grief forces you to look at those parts of yourself that are not yet healed. If you can look at grief as a teaching, you will grow. The pain of grief is not the only teacher in this life, but if looked at properly, with awareness and an open heart, it is one of the greatest teachers of all. The seeds of wisdom and enlightenment are planted within the wounds of grief. What is lost can only come back to us again in higher ways."

– Rob Schouten
  1. Acknowledge the reality of the pandemic and your grief. Accept the reality of your loss. The more you communicate openly and honestly, the better you will feel.
  2. Accept the pain of your loss. Honor all of your feelings. Name them. Express them outside of yourself in some way, and the heavy emotions will soften. Talk about them with others. You’ll find that fully and honestly expressing all of your feelings will provide you with instant comfort and relief.
  3. Adjust to your new environment where your relationship, work situation, or loved one has passed. Practice gratitude for the good in your life. Having gratitude for what was and what is will help you foster hope for what will be. Withdraw emotional energy and reinvest and develop a new identity based on a life without the deceased, relationship, or circumstance. Be kind to yourself; treat yourself with patience and compassion. Your pandemic grief needs and deserves tender loving care. Take care of you; this assists staying in balance. Find something that will help you feel joy, meaning, and purpose.
  4. Relate the experience of loss to a context of meaning. We are in what’s called liminal space right now, which means we’re suspended in this long, uncomfortable pause. Right now is just a period of transition. It’s the time betwixt and between, and this calls for mindfulness to be present and care for your Spirit.
  5. Reach out to others to give and accept support.
  6. Build relationships. Communicate with others. Be honest and real.
  7. Let others help you, now and always. 
Navigating Pandemic Grief
“Rituals are not the path. They are the reminder that there is a path.”

 – Emmanuel