“Grief is everything we think and feel inside of us whenever our attachments are threatened, harmed, or severed.” 
Dr. Alan Wolfelt

“It is possible I am pushing through solid rock.”
– Rainer Maria Rilke

“Grief is not a life sentence. However, when we receive a grief burst, it can feel like an emotional tornado that comes after a loss.”
– Norah Casey, The Cure for Grief, Ted Talk
  1. Accept the reality of the loss. It’s as if the realness of what has happened waits around the corner. I don’t want to make the turn, yet I know I must. Slowly, I gather the courage to approach. 
  2. Accept the pain of the loss. I may try to protect myself from my sadness by not talking about my loss, I may even secretly hope that the person who died will come back if I don’t talk about it. Yet as difficult as it is, I must feel it to heal it.
  3. Adjust to an environment in which the relationship or deceased is missing. Remember the person who died. The essence of finding meaning in the future is not to forget my past, as I have been told, but instead to embrace my past. For it is in listening to the music of the past that I can sing in the present and dance into the future.
  4. Withdraw emotional energy and reinvest and develop a new identity. As I explore them, I don’t reinforce my tensions but instead release them. In this way, I transcend my grief and discover new life beyond anything my heart could ever have comprehended. Oh, the gentleness of new life.
  5. Relate the experience of loss to a context of meaning. I must encounter my questions, my doubts, my fears. There is a richness in these domains. 
  6. Let others help you, now and always. I heal, in part, by allowing others to express their love for me. By choosing to invite others into my journey, I move toward health and healing. If I hide from others, I hide from healing.
Navigating Pandemic Grief