Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Marin
UUCM Email Weekly!
September 27, 2018
Issue #467
Sunday Worship Services
10:30 am
September 30, 2018: Preparing to be Busy 
In a culture awash with people suffering from chronic busyness,  
who has time for church? What makes this community worth your
precious time? 
Past worship services  (You may listen to the services marked with an Audio symbol)  

The Sunday Circle 9 am
9 am - The Sunday Circle 

Upcoming Topics and Leaders
9/30/18 Importance of Joy                           Janice Prochaska 
10/7/18 Hanging Out with the Dalai Lama  Elizabeth Ferris 
More Info and additional service topics.

The Sunday Circle is held from 
9:00 am to 10:00 am each Sunday in the Fireside Room.
Notes Along the Way
Rev marcus
While this is the last week on our monthly theme of what it means to be a people of Welcome, I hope we are still just beginning our journey of deepening our practice of welcome.
The monthly themes we are working with come from a collective of UU congregations called Soul Matters. In January, anyone who would like to will have the opportunity to join a small group that uses materials on the monthly theme to enrich our conversations. The introduction to this month's materials on Welcome offers a few gems of wisdom that I hope might linger among us as we move toward next month's theme of Vision:
Welcoming is most often associated with "bigness." We speak about "expanding the circle" and making more room. We talk about make ourselves larger through the practice of welcoming in new experiences and new ideas. But there is also the work of becoming smaller. And sometimes that is the even more important work.
For instance, those of us who are white are learning that true welcoming of diversity just can't happen until we shrink and de-center our voices. We also know that expanding community and welcoming newcomers requires right-sizing our needs and putting our preferences second. Welcoming regularly involves the smallness of humility and willingness to listen and learn. The great spiritual teachers remind us that the key to feeling at home in the universe is seeing ourselves as a tiny but precious part of a greater whole, rather than believing that the whole world revolves around us. Downsizing and living simply allows us to welcome in more experience, adventure and peace. And, of course, there's also the work of downsizing our egos enough to admit mistakes, ask for forgiveness and welcome in the work of repair.
Bottom line: There is a deep spiritual connection between the smallness of self and the expansiveness of relationship. It's a curious and wonderful truth: the road to widening the circle often starts with limiting our own size. By becoming "smaller," we paradoxically are better able to welcome in and receive the gift of "more." 
With you on the journey,
Rev. Marcus
jef melcher
Pot of Gold:  
I am going to Sacramento this weekend to get the latest in RE philosophy and practices. There is still room at the event if anyone wants to go. I am on the planning team and will leave Friday afternoon for the Saturday event. I will be back on Sunday to give a report back in the Fireside Room from 12:15-1pm. 
I will try to give a flavor of the various workshops. Change is in the wind.

Interactive Jazz:  This Sunday, the 30th, all ages welcome to join Jerry Moore as the guest presenter for All Ages RE, 10:45-11:45, in the Fireside Room. Do you know children and youth who love music? This is a great time to invite them to come experience UUCM RE. Jerry has an active participatory art form that enchants children ages 5-100. Parents welcome to attend with their children.

Our Whole Lives Information Meeting: 
Open to all interested persons to learn more about our UUA curriculum on human sexuality and relationships. We will cover the philosophy and a little about each level of the curriculum from K1 to Adult. This award-winning curriculum was designed by both the Unitarian Universalist Assn. and the United Church of Christ. This information meeting will be held Oct. 7th, noon-1pm in the Wright Room at UUCM.

Snack making helps make the children and youth feel loved: It may seem like a small thing that can be ignored, but it can make all the difference in how welcome and  cared for the children and youth feel on Sunday morning. I would like every RE family and any other people in the congregation to sign up for making and serving a snack at least once per semester. We are now scheduling through Dec. Here is the link:
and there are directions on that web page. If the Sign-up Genius website is too cumbersome then look for a date that works for you and send me an email. It can be the simple and consistent acts of care and kindness that set the basis for children to grow into caring adults.

Looking for a teacher or two for our growing 2nd-3rd-grade group. We have Bea Meluch and Rachel Paluska, and we need two more. Classroom support and training are available. Please contact the Jeffrey at   dre@UUMarin.org 

OWL for K-1 +2: 
We are one step closer to providing an Our Whole Lives class for our younger elementary children this Fall. Doug Kerr and Lori Smith will be the Lead Teachers. An information meeting will be held Oct. 7th, noon-1pm in the Wright Room (downstairs to the right) . Anybody at all interested in knowing more about OWL is invited.
RE Calendar(s)
Here is a  Link to several RE calendars. Some people prefer to print a hard copy and put it on the family bulletin board. Live Google Calendar for Multigenerational Services and Activities. Import it into your own and stay up on what is happening so you can make your choices.  https://calendar.google.com/calendar/embed?src=7h5vrf0fi3rsdav6d0dtebn5o4%40group.calendar.google.com&ctz=America%2FLos_Angeles 

Jeffrey Melcher,  M.Div. 
Director of Family Ministries 
Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Marin
My general work hours: Mondays and Tuesdays are my days off. I have office hours at UUCM Wed and Thursday 10:30-2pm as well as Sunday 9AM-1pm. Friday and Saturday I work from home. Email, phone, and text are all fine forms of communication to use. 
Selected Upcoming Dates
Upcoming dates link to the UUCM calendar for saving on iCal, Outlook etc.

It Takes A Village - October 3rd 2-4 PM
Join us on October 3rd from 2-4 PM for coffee in the Fireside Room to great members of the San Rafael Village. We at UU Marin supported Marin Villages with a Basket Share contribution last year. Now we have the opportunity to meet with villagers from San Rafael and Novato who have chosen to find support and connection through these communities.  
Villages offer members an opportunity to share wisdom, experience and ideas to stay active and connected. Local villages build a corps of volunteers to assist members with needs and services. Please RSVP to Kat Braeman at katbraeman@gmail.com or 415-492-2647, a member of the village. https://www.marinvillages.org
Get Ready for a Night of Fun - Saturday, October 6
Please plan to come to our Autumn Auction on Saturday, October 6, 2018, 5:00-9:00 p.m.  Admission is free, with a potluck dinner, no-host bar, and live music by Milton Wong and Christine Kraemer. The silent auction will open at 5:00, and tables will close at 15-minute intervals between at 6:15 and 7:00 p.m., so results can be tabulated by the end of the evening. The potluck and live auction will begin at 7:00 p.m. You can get a preview of the items we'll be auctioning at    https://tinyurl.com/UUCMauction -- updates and new items are being added daily.

Enjoy an evening of fun, food, and fundraising! Proceeds will support UUCM programs, including social justice, youth leadership, and community building.
See you there!  More information:  https://uumarin.org/auction/  Email:  Auction@UUMarin.org
Pathway to UU
Sunday September 30, 12:15 PM - 2:00 PM, Minister's Office
Gather with Rev. Marcus to explore what it means to make UUMarin your spiritual home.
Defibrillator Training
We will have a free CPR training for the congregation on Sunday Oct. 7th following the service.  This will be a short class introducing the new defibrillator that was donated to UUCM.  This is basic information that can save a person's life.   
The class will be led by Walter Littrell, who had his life saved by a defibrillator during a heart attack twenty three years ago.  All guests are welcome along with members of the congregation to learn this simple life-saving technique.  BE WELL!
New Writing Group
Writing to Find the Voice Inside on October 13th

Join the  new writing group sponsored by Adult Ed and led by Kat Braeman to write for ten minutes on a topic from Gail Collins-Ranadive's book, Finding the Voice Inside .  
Writing can be a spiritual quest.  The topic might be a simple introduction of what we want others to know about ourselves, or an opportunity to reconsider who we really are.  Or we might want to reflect on a childhood ritual or recount a family story. We can explore how we receive affirmation or reframe our life stories. After we write for ten minutes, we will each read what we wrote and share our stories with the others in the group.  It is a very simple process but magic can evolve. This group will meet once a month from 10 to 12 noon and will begin on Saturday, October 13. Next dates: 11/10, 12/8. 
New Classic Book Club
The UUCM Classic Book Club will have its first meeting in the Clara Barton room, 1:30-3:00pm, on Wednesday, October 24.

Then it will skip November and December.

Thereafter it will meet on the fourth Wednesday of every month starting January 23, 2019 and and ending May 22, 2019.

The first book is Tolstoy's Anna Karenina.

Please email Doug Kerr ( DrsKerr@pacbell.net ) to have your email put on the group email list if you are interested.

Thanks.  See you then.
Remarkable People
Please save the dates of October 19 and November 16 for the "Remarkable People"   biography program. Facilitated by Nani Ranken, these Friday evenings consist of two UUCM members telling their life story and answering questions. It is spellbinding to hear people talk about the circumstances and choices in their life, and there is no better way to get to know other UUCM folks.
October 19 from 7-8:30pm in the Fireside Room. Amanda Morando and Earl Owen will be the speakers. Mark your calendars for the  third Fridays of February through May as well. Questions? Talk to Nani, or email   kimholscher51@gmail.com.
New Address for Order of Service Announcements
We will use announcements@uumarin.org as the email address
for people to send announcements in for the back page of the order of service. Whomever is doing work on any particular week's o/s will have full access to it. The deadline is Wed 5pm.
UUCM Common Read
UUCM Adult Ed is excited to announce that our Common Read this year will be: 

White Fragility: Why It's So Hard For White People To Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo

Read More Here:

Adult Ed has ordered 10 copies for circulation.  Email Ilana Trumbull-Stearns Adult Ed Committee Chair:
adultRE@uumarin.org to sponsor a copy for circulation at UUCM: $14 ($16 plus tax and shipping if you purchase yourself from Beacon Press).
Also email to hold a copy for a two week honor system "checkout."  

Also available on Kindle and Audible:

Marin County Libraries have copies but there is a wait so reserve your copy soon:

Our discussion is scheduled for Sunday, November 4th 12:15-1:30 in the Fireside Room and will be led by Jan Seagrave. 
Social Justice Education/Action
Contribute to the 3rd Tuesday night dinner at the First Presbyterian Church. Contact Carol Littrell. 
UUSC Take Action Items - Sign petitions, learn about issues, donate money.
Do you want to make a difference in our county and the world? We focus on local issues which are relevant to all of us. Bring your ideas and concerns to the  UUCM Social Justice Committee.  We meet the third Sunday of each month at noon.  
Continue your commitment to environmental and economic justice by shopping at   http://shop.uusc.org 
Visitor's Box
We cherish diversity and welcome among us
people of all races, cultures, ages, abilities, sexual
identities/orientations, and faith perspectives.

GUESTS are always welcome. Sunday worship is a time for inspiration, renewal, and connection.

  CHILDREN AND YOUTH  join adults during the first part of the service, and then attend Religious Exploration classes. Nursery and toddler care is provided during the 10:30 service. There is a speaker system to bring sound from Fellowship Hall to the nursing room and the pre-K area. 

  REFRESHMENT HOUR  in the Courtyard or  Fireside Room follows the services.
 There are four "Sunday First Time Visitor" parking spots at the top of the parking lot.  
Come, join us! 
Quick Links
Staff Links
 Developmental Minister:  Rev. Marcus Hartlief revmarcus@uumarin.org  
Office hours:
Tuesday-Thursday: mid-morning to late afternoon or into the evening.
 Call, text or email to make an appointment.  
415-578-9632 (direct), 510-213-0404 (cell) 
Director of Family Ministries:  Jeffrey Melcher  dre@uumarin.org
Office hours:
Wed 10:30-2:00
Thursday 10:30-2:00
Sunday 9:00-1:00
Administrator: Janette Morrow  office@uumarin.org
  415-578-9577 direct 
Choir director:  Amanda Morando  muusic@uumarin.org    
Pianist:  Milton Wong   milton.wong@csaa.com 

Nursery Teacher: Glynda Christian gjchristi@gmail.com 
Pastoral Care Committee: pastoralcare@uumarin.org 
Don Beck: 415-892-0642 
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