When I was a kid, a received a book entitled, "What do you say, dear?" It offered outrageous scenarios and then asked the aforementioned question to teach young children manners. Here's an example: You are at the Princess' ball and she is telling you a secret, but her orchestra of bears is making such a fearful lot of noise you cannot hear her. What do you say, dear? You turn the page and the answer is, "I beg your pardon."
I bring this up because one of the questions that arises when discussing our anti-racism work is just this. How do we ask questions about things we do not understand? How do we respond when the impact of someone's statement is hurtful or not well thought out?
For too long the answer to the question was say nothing. In recent times however, we have answered that question with blunt, accusatory reactions instead. There has to be a better way.
The charm of my little book is that the integrity of all the characters (even the dragons) stays intact with the response given. It's not about being "polite" as much as it is being respectful and seeing the other as a child of God. It is not always easy to know what to say, but staying silent is not an option.
In the Way of Love,
This Sunday, Jesus describes himself as the vine that connects all of creation, through whom we bear much fruit.
At 10:00 am, the Morning Prayer service will be livestreamed from our homes. Assisting in the service is Barbara Layne and Katie LaBonte. Please join us on Zoom or Facebook.
At 4:00 pm, the Celtic Evensong will will livestreamed from the church. Paul Massari will offer the reflection. Please join us on Facebook for this service.
Please join us wherever you are
in your search for meaning.
Everyone is welcome at any and all services at
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Parish Prayer List
Please keep the following in your prayers:
Barbara and Loretta who are recovering from surgery.
Kristin Gourley, on her cancer diagnosis, that she made find healing and find the inner peace she seeks.
For the peaceful repose of the soul of Benjamin Quartarone.
Linda Whalen, Bob Peterson, Nancy Brown, Brian Peterson, Robert Squillaro, Jenny, Loretta and Kris, Deb Papps, Derek Fuller and Family, Kathy Southern, Becky, the Quartarone Family, Scott Tucker, and the Salem Public Schools.
For an end to racism, gun violence and oppression.
Thanksgiving for Jon Papps and Helen Watson-Felt, in whose memory the flowers at the Easter Altar are given.
Our antiracism team met this week and we have some information to share with you.
Virtual cottage meetings will resume in the middle of May. Look for information soon on how to sign up. Each person on the committee will facilitate as we dig deeper into our own experiences living in a culture and country steeped in white supremacy. We earnestly hope that every member will do their best to attend one of these cottage meetings. We truly feel they are a place to hone our listening skills as well as our chance to share our experiences openly and honestly.
We also decided to do something for Juneteenth this year. A few ideas were shared and we hope to share more information with you soon. Here is an article about Juneteenth: Juneteeth.
Finally, look for a list of readings and videos that you can access to grow your knowledge about racism and antiracism work.
We believe firmly that it is the responsibility of all white folks to do due diligence in learning how to anti racists. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or would like to be a part of our work together. Pray for our work. Pray that we may be the Body of Christ and recognize Christ in all persons.
Brian Fizer and the Grace Antiracism Taskforce
Plant Sale and Workshop on May 22
This year's plant sale will have two components: A plant walk, much like our cookie walk, and a wonderful workshop by Brian Fizer that teaches us how to put together and care for a container garden filled with native plants. The workshops will be offered at 10 and 11 and you can purchase your ticket through ticketleap here: https://grace-church.ticketleap.com/beginning this weekend.
We are still looking for donations of all kinds of plants and monies. Please contact email@example.com if you wish to help.