December 2019 - Greenville, MS Volume 11
Voices Making a Difference - Newsletter
Happy Holidays!!!!!
From us to you.
Domestic Violence and the Holidays: A Survivor’s Guide

The holidays are often thought of as the best time of the year. It is a time for loved ones, celebration, and joy. However, for victims of domestic violence, the holidays can be a very dark and scary time. Unrealistic expectations, financial pressures, and the increased consumption of alcohol can raise stress levels, which can contribute to incidents of domestic violence.

Since the holiday season is supposed to be the best time of the year, many people have high expectations.

These can include giving the best gifts, balancing time effectively, getting along with family, and having an abundance of holiday spirit. Many people can become stressed while trying to live up to these heightened expectations, and feel devastated if they fail. Before the holidays, it is important to set realistic expectations and realize that things may not go as planned.

Financial pressures and the stress of having a tight budget can feel more overwhelming during the holidays. The expectations of buying the best gifts can increase anxiety about how to handle the many added expenses. Some simple steps can help with stress management during the holidays. One way to help with financial strain is to develop a holiday budget and plan of action. Be realistic about gift giving; give gifts that your budget allows, whether that includes store-bought or homemade items. By prioritizing gift giving and resisting external pressure and the internal urge to overspend, holiday stress can be decreased.

Another component of the holidays is the serving and drinking of alcohol. Sometimes, individuals will use alcohol and other substances to cope with holiday stress. However, drinking as a coping strategy often doesn’t help because the ability to cope decreases as the amount of alcohol consumed increases. While hosting holiday parties, offer a selection of non-alcoholic beverages and stop serving alcohol at least one hour before the party ends. Consider attending Alcoholic Anonymous or Al-Anon if you or a family member have struggled with alcohol dependency. The meetings can be one of the most important steps to reduce the level of stress during the holidays. Seeking out further assistance, such as addiction counseling, can also help you handle the stress of the holidays.

Domestic violence is more likely to occur when stress levels are high. During the holidays, unrealistic expectations, financial strain, and alcohol can increase stress, and therefore, incidents of domestic violence. If you find that you are in a domestic violence situation, it is important to have a safety kit in case you have to exit a dangerous situation quickly. This kit should be hidden in a safe place and should include emergency numbers, a bag of clothing and toiletries, important documents such as birth certificates and a driver’s license, medication, prescriptions, car keys, house keys, and cash.
There is help for persistent stress, worry, anxiety, depression, or overall negativity during the holidays. Finding the right therapist where you can have a safe place to get support and empowerment during difficult times can be helpful. Therapy can help with stress management, mood and relationships, and confidence and empowerment.

Our House, Inc.'s newest board members as of October 2019

  • Rev. Anjohnette Gibbs
  • Attorney Kimberly Merchant
  • Investigator Bennie Milton
  • Dr. Reginald Rodgers

More information will be forth-coming soon!

Holiday Educational Link

Domestic Violence

35 movies that survivors says reflects domestic violence
RAINN-Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network
National Domestic Violence Hotline
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December 3rd, 2019 is Giving Tuesday across the nation.

On December 3, 2019, join the movement and give - whether it’s some of your time, a donation, or the power of your voice in our community to end domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, stalking and human trafficking.

Giving Tuesday is a global generosity movement unleashing the power of people and organizations to transform their communities and the world on December 3, 2019 and every day.

It was created in 2012 as a simple idea: a day that encourages people to do good. Over the past seven years, this idea has grown into a global movement that inspires hundreds of millions of people to give, collaborate, and celebrate generosity.

Whether you come together with your family, your community, your company or your organization, you can make a difference.

December 3, 2019 is also my 60th birthday, my co-workers, volunteers, family members, board members and community leaders have been asked to donate $60, 60 volunteer hours, and/or 60 moments of prayer in memory of survivors of interpersonal violence. 

The Gift of welcome at all times.

Dr. Patricia Ann Davenport
Our House, Inc.
662-334-6873 office * 662-332-5683 hotline *
VISION STATEMENT: A world free of interpersonal violence.

MISSION STATEMENT: To lead, empower and inspire change by eliminating domestic violence and sexual violence through intervention, prevention, prosecution, victim protection and sustainable restoration in rural communities; and, to enhance the lives of survivors of interpersonal violence by providing services that meet the psychological, spiritual and cultural needs of those we serve.
Safety Tips for the Holiday Season