Graduation Season is here!
Graduation season is officially here, and that means banquets, ceremonies, and… parties.
When it comes to graduation parties, many, in fact, most teens will celebrate responsibly, what’s more, those that end up drinking, vaping, or using other drugs, probably had an intention NOT to do so. But inevitably, peer pressure, looking ahead to the college experience, and FOMO (fear of missing out) take over.
The best tools you as a parent have are knowledge and open communication with your teen. Have a discussion about drugs and alcohol. Our YAB teens say that while not all parties will have this, some will, and it's more likely an expectation for graduation parties. Make your expectations about this known, as well as the consequences.
Since they will be heading off to college, many may see this as a right of passage - even some other parents. So, YOUR standing on this and agreement with your teen will be very important. You can talk through all of this with them openly and honestly, and more importantly, you can let them know that you'll be their backup if needed. Be just a call or text away and make sure your teen knows they can use that with no questions asked.
If your teen does find him or herself in a bad situation, where their friends are drunk or high, they need to know that they can reach out to you to get a ride home.
For parents who want to provide a safe graduation party, there are things you can put in place to ensure a fun, safe celebration:
- Plan with your teen a guest limit, and make sure to stick to it. You and your child can invite your guests directly via text, phone call, but make sure not to post about it on social media…. that’s when the word can spread and possibly get out of your control with too many people you don’t know coming to your home.
- Make sure to set an end time and that students and parents know when the party is ending and that they have arranged for a safe ride home.
- If you are providing alcohol for the adults, make a clear distinction for this and have someone on hand to monitor the area/table.
- Make sure your expectations for no alcohol or drugs are known and will be enforced.
Remember, Parents are legally responsible for anything that happens to a minor who has been served alcohol or other drugs in their home. If anyone brings alcohol or other drugs to your home, be prepared to contact their parents. And if someone comes to your home already intoxicated, make sure that they get home safely. Help your teen feel responsible for this as well.
Parents may be criminally or civilly liable if:
- Alcohol is provided to a minor at a party they have organized.
- Someone's property is damaged.
- Someone is injured.
- Someone leaves and gets into a car accident and/or injures someone else.
- Someone dies.
Laws about alcohol and drug use vary from state to state, so make sure you know what the laws are in your state.
See below for Michigan Social Hosting laws.
[1] Tips for a Safe and Drug-Free Homecoming Season | Get Smart About Drugs
[2] A Parent's Guide to Teen Parties - HealthyChildren.org
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