In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.
Today I have a challenge for you. I would like to you to notice when you begin to feel
encumbered by your emotions.
Notice when you feel a tug to be connected.
Having your phone within arm's reach, believing that you need to return someone's phone call or email immediately, (because you are someone who makes things happen quickly, because you care, because that's your usual mode of operating).
Notice the compulsions that rise up.
Your desire to want to change someone's mind, to get swept up in an argument, to feel the annoyance at the traffic or the weather or the inconsiderate nature of "some people".
Notice the pull to criticize yourself for your food choices today - whether you had a coffee before water, a sandwich when you were "supposed" to eat your greens or you ate a muffin instead of your go-to smoothie.
Notice how you feel within your body when you are faced with a difficult choice-the pressure to respond, recoil, or perhaps, lash out.
I'm assuming it feels yucky right??
Being swung by the tail of your own emotional reactivity.
AND.....NOT TODAY DEAR ONE.....
Today, I am reminding you, to remind yourself, that you have the permission to choose.
- You can choose to react.
- You can choose to respond rather than react.
- You can choose mindfulness and presence.
- You can choose to act on autopilot.
- You can choose to engage in the drama of others, or to simply walk away.
- You can choose to notice your compulsions with curiosity, or remain propelled by the unknown.
- You can choose to beat yourself up over your smallest lapses, or you can agree to do better next time.
- You can choose to be a doormat or you can practice setting boundaries.
- You can choose to punish yourself, and others.
- You can choose to be swayed by the moods and energy of others.
- You can choose to lean into compassion.
- You can choose to be responsible for the energy you bring into a room.
- You can choose to adhere to your own values and stick to your own path.
These are choices that you get to make today and every day.
Honestly, it is not about getting it "right" every day. Some days you might choose to take the low road.
That is perfectly OK too.
When you operate from a place of choice, you can observe your responses, learn from them and agree to do better next time (or not).
YOU GET TO CHOOSE
I'm curious? What would it feel like for you to take ownership of your decisions? To steer the ship? To inhabit that place of freedom and peace?
Love and Warm Light to you! Joanie
FINDING HELP IN ESSENTIAL OILS
Many people know the power and benefit of essential oils for physical health -
from digestive support to a well-functioning immune system, essential oils can be used for the whole family to keep the body in balance. And, essential oils also have dramatic impact on emotional states, and there are essential oils for emotional health just as there are those for physical health.
So how do oils help with emotions?
Essential oils connect with the olfactory system of the body - that is our sense of smell. Many people think that our sense of smell is confined to our noses, but did you know that there are olfactory receptors all throughout the body, and in all of our organs? It is probably our most powerful sense of all. As an example, I smelled a flower the other day that immediately reminded me of my grandparents house in Massachusetts that I used to visit as a child. That smell brought back memories of play, and family, and sunshine ... from sooooo many years ago!
Memories and smells can be very closely tied and trigger powerful responses.
Part of the reason for this is the connection between the olfactory system and our limbic system. Our limbic system is a part of the brain that is central to our feelings and emotions. It's a deep, primitive part of the brain, unlike the higher centers where more of our intellect (thought life) resides. Emotions are very primitive and primordial.
Our emotions are a reflection of both our internal and external environments - both the circumstances of our lives, and our previous experiences that shape how we filter our current circumstances. Our "filters" are created by our history - if we have had prior traumas, if our parents or teachers spoke positivity into our lives, or constantly cut us down, if we have experienced the world as a safe, happy place, or an unsafe, painful place. Those filters influence our perception of our experiences today which can then influence our emotions, moment by moment.
The other reason we need help for our emotional state is that many of us live with a high level of stress. I just heard an analogy that I loved about a bucket. We each have a bucket, and in that bucket go all our responsibilities and tasks. Our work life and job responsibilities, caring for our spouses, taking care of children, financial stress, health issues, etc etc - all go into the bucket. Now while many of those things may be positive, they still contribute to the 'total load' that we deal with every day. If our buckets are too full, it doesn't take as much for it to get full and overflow - a flat tire, an unexpected vet bill, an illness in the family - all those things can tip the balance, and lessen our ability to keep even-keeled emotions.
And this is life and reality for many of us. I think there is a good argument for not filling up one's bucket too full, so that if one or two extra things jump in, we don't overflow and lose it.
In the meantime, there are essential oils and blends to help with our everyday stressors. These blends have been carefully formulated, with specific ingredients blended to work synergistically, based on their chemical constituents and actions. Some chemical constituents have more uplifting and stimulating effects, while others are more calming and soothing. Mints and citrus oils tend to be more invigorating, for example, while florals, trees, herbs and grasses are more calming.
There are three essential oil blends that are more uplifting and stimulating -
- good for use when feeling down, it provides a cheerful boost of happiness and positivity. It contains citrus oils including wild orange peel, lemon myrtle, clove, star anise, nutmeg, vanilla bean extract, ginger, cinnamon and zdravetz.
- for use when you have lost self-confidence or lost faith, or
feel mistrustful; this oil helps you to reconnect with your self-confidence, motivation, creativity and courage. It contains peppermint, clementine, coriander, basil, yuzu, melissa, rosemary and vanilla bean.
- does life feel dull or boring? Maybe you feel like you're in a rut. This blend will help you rekindle enjoyment and passion in your life, and reconnect with joy for the blessings in your life. It contains cardamom seed, cinnamon, ginger, clove, sandalwood, jasmine, vanilla bean and damiana.
Then there are three blends that are more calming and soothing -
- anger and guilt can be a hefty burden to carry, and can definitely hold us back. This blend is designed to help us find forgiveness - of our selves and others. It is a liberating blend to help us find freedom in our lives. It contains spruce, bergamot, juniper berry, myrrh, arborvitae, nootka tree wood, thyme and citronella.
- sadness, loss, grief and other painful emotions can hang over us like dark storm clouds. This blend helps us to close the door on sadness and find a more hopeful path of emotional healing. It contains frankincense, patchouli, ylang ylang, labdanum, amyris bark, sandalwood, rose and osmanthus.
- many of us have anxious moments where we feel afraid and overwhelmed. This blend is a great one for slowing down, taking deep breaths, and getting reconnected and recollected with our peaceful selves. It contains vetiver, lavender, ylang ylang, frankincense, clary sage, marjoram, labdanum and spearmint.
All of these blends are designed to be used aromatically. I have used them all - even just unscrewing the bottle top and inhaling the aroma from the bottle shifts my emotional state immediately. Diffusing in a diffuser is perfect for these oils, and in a pinch, just put a drop into the palm of your hands, rub them together and cup them over your face and inhale. Remember, our olfactory system is directly connected with our limbic system. Use your nose to reach your emotions!!
* One of the most vital things you must know about essential oils is not all essential oils are created equally. In fact, most of them are worthless to your health and often synthetic. When buying essential oils make s
ure they are certified pure therapeutic grade. If you want to order the brand
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**THE ADVICE ON THIS PAGE IS NOT INTENDED TO REPLACE PROFESSIONAL MEDICAL HELP. THESE STATEMENTS ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY, THEY ARE NOT MEANT TO DIAGNOSE, TREAT, CURE OR PREVENT ANY ILLNESS OR DISEASE. THIS INFORMATION IS OFFERED AS A WAY TO USE ESSENTIAL OILS TO ASSIST THE BODY IN ITS OWN NATURAL PROCESSES OF REACHING BALANCE AND HOMEOSTASIS.
What do you really, really, really want in your life?
What would feel amazing in your heart of hearts?
What would cause you, at the end of your life, to look back and say, "That was a life well-lived?"
What if you could move beyond whatever is holding you back to step into the life of your dreams?
I help clients take the steps they need to take to step out of the comfort zones and ruts to move into the life they really want.
AND I incorporate Essential Oils into the mix.
Essential Oils help us to work on all levels of our being. They are powerful, transformative tools. No, you don't have to add them to our work, but I definitely recommend it!
Are you ready?
Letting yourself think BIG and expect miracles!
Ready to take the next step?
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