Dear Friends:
The start of the holiday season is upon us. My dad, who just turned 91, has been teaching me the importance and promise of gratitude for many years as he has grown in wisdom and years. He is more fortunate than many, to have good health and to be able to live independently, with a big, boisterous, loving family and many friends.
But with all that he has, he has never forgotten compassion for those with less-- those who have experienced trauma and hardship, lack of health and health care. I think his and my mom’s modeling of compassion is largely why I have worked in helping professions my entire career. My folks always called me habib al sha’ab, which means “lover of the people” in Arabic. I was fortunate enough to also have a grandma, a friend of our family who unofficially adopted my folks when they first came to the United States to study. Grandma took care of me while my parents worked and went to school and became my staunchest ally, especially during my teen years when my mom and I didn’t see eye to eye on much of anything.
Thinking about the amazing elders in my own life and in our community, I happened across a story about a senior living facility that opened up some of its empty apartments to young people. It was a beautiful win-win: the younger folks had a safe and affordable place to live, and in exchange for that they were required to spend time with the elders. They have meals together, play games, read to each other, and just talk. The elders had help with small chores and just having someone tall to reach things on their top shelves! Their relationships grew into something very much like what I had with my grandma, and what I have with my dad now.
While we at CFS work with children and families, this is a great time to remind ourselves of the beauty and richness all the generations bring to our lives. I wish there was more of this intergenerational connection in our world. But meanwhile, one of the things I am most grateful for is Dad’s longevity, experience, and wisdom—and that of all the elders in our community.
I’m grateful for all of you, too. Thank you for supporting our important work, all year ‘round.
Warmly,
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