I think one small benefit is that raising
How? The heart of the answer is this:
skills for success are about our FEELINGS.
About relying on our emotions to get through
It's not, as I once suspected, about relying on our
great intellect to navigate life's up and downs.
Most experts agree that people usually make
decisions based on emotions. And afterward
we use our logic to justify these decisions.
You'll find examples everywhere you turn.
And you do it yourself all the time, too:
- What should I plan for dinner tonight?
- What shoes should I wear today?
- Why should I believe what you're saying?
Examine each choice we make. Nearly every time,
you'll find we make a decision based on our
And then we come up with an explanation that seems
logical enough to justify our decision.
It's not our fault. Like it or not, this is how we work:
Heart first, then brains.
So here's that Tip I promised you:
The secret for planning music at any celebration
is to target the FEELINGS behind the celebration.
Well, of course that's NOT the complete story.
For important decisions, I still believe we need
to guide our choices with some expert advice,
as well as with our emotions.
Let's say you're organizing a special project.
You want to work with some capable people,
eager to make your dreams come true, right?
Inevitably, you'll make your plans based on your
feelings. We all know to expect that by now.
But don't jump in with your feelings alone.
Be smart and gather some expert opinions
to back up your feelings. Ask a pro.
Wherever you can, get advice from experienced
professionals, who've "been there, done that".
So, for example, the next time you're planning music
-- for a wedding or a party --
you can call me.