B'nai Israel 

Shabbat Shalom
Friday, September 11, 2020 ~ 22 Elul 5780
Candle Lighting 7:05 pm

Torah ~ Deuteronomy 29:9-31:30
Haftarah ~ Isaiah 61:10-63:9

All in-person services at the synagogue are cancelled 
until further notice.

Please join us on ZOOM 
Friday Evening Service
Friday, September 11, at 6:00 pm
with Rabbi Chaya Bender

We will be saying a special El Malei for those lost on September 11th and 
those whose lives have been lost in recent years due to September 11th
 related injury. There will be the opportunity to share the name and memory 
of any loved ones who were lost in this tragedy.

Meeting ID: 870 4502 6973
Password: 296299

You may also listen by calling this
telephone number for either service:

Shabbat Morning Service
September 12, at 9:30 am
with Rabbi Chaya Bender

Meeting ID: 840 5575 1022
Password: 296299

These services will include the opportunity to
say the Mourner's Kaddish and to offer names
for the Mi Sheberach.

Torah ~ Deuteronomy 29:9-31:30
Haftarah ~ Isaiah 61:10-63:9

Leil Selichot: The Official Start of the High Holiday Season
Saturday evening, September 12, 8:00 pm
Please join on ZOOM for Havdalah and a short musical 
Selichot service to kick off the holiday season.

Leil Selichot
September 12, 2020 8:00 pm Eastern Time 

 Meeting ID: 778 641 3847
Passcode: 296299
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From the President...

In just over a week we will enter the most sacred time of the Jewish year. Erev Rosh Hashanah begins on Friday evening, September 18th. The Days of Awe continue through the end of Yom Kippur, after sundown on Monday, September 28th. Soon after that, we will celebrate the festive holidays of Sukkot and then Simchat Torah.
The Days of Awe are a time for self-reflection and re-dedication: a time to consider the past year and how we might be a better person or a better Jew. What that means to each of us is completely personal. It could mean attending more services, giving more Tzedakah or taking part in social action projects, i.e., Tikkun Olam. For others, this time of year can provide the impetus to repair damaged relationships with others or even with ourselves. In other words, we can do better at accepting and loving the imperfect humans we all are.
I encourage all of you to take some time for reflection, BUT there are a few concrete items to do to be ready for the Holidays. 
  • Do you have a Mahzor, the High Holiday prayer book?  Pick up a prayer book at the synagogue or call the office and ask for one to be delivered.
  • If you are a member, have you signed onto ShulCloud? Sign onto ShulCloud if you haven't done so before. Advise us if you have difficulty doing so. This is how you will view the Holiday services.
  • If you are NOT a member, have you arranged for a High Holiday ticket?  Please speak to Kate in the office to arrange for a ticket, if you are not a member of the congregation.
  • Have you submitted names you wish to have included in the Yizkor book?  Tomorrow (September 11th) is the deadline for submission of names for the Yizkor book. Call Efraim Jaronowski if you wish to include any at 910-343-5789.
Yes, the holidays are certainly very different this year, but we are striving to keep them as meaningful as possible. Our Sisterhood and Men's Club are making 'Break the Fast' for all our members. The kits contain some honey, chocolate and a small bottle of Kedem grape juice - just what the rabbi ordered for a sweet year! A copy of the Book of Remembrance (Yizkor book) will also be included. The kits & booklets will be available for members to pick up at the synagogue on Tuesday, September 22nd from 10:00 am to 4:00 pm. If you need to have yours delivered, please contact Efraim Jaronowski at 910-343-5789 or Diane Gerberg at 910-399-6201.
The Yizkor book can also be mailed to you; however due to postal delays, it is possible you may not receive it until after Yom Kippur. To ensure that everyone has access, a copy of the Book of Remembrance will be placed on our website.
Also, in the spirit of remembrance, tomorrow is September 11th. Most of us remember exactly where we were when the attacks occurred. Many of us knew people that were lost that day in the Twin Towers, Pentagon or Shanksville, Pennsylvania. We are thankful every day for those who were spared. Many who helped in the rescue or cleanup efforts have suffered or died from the effects of toxins left in the wake of the attack. Take a moment and say a prayer for those lost, for those who lost loved ones, and for our country, in the hope that we never experience such a tragedy again.  
Stay Safe & Shabbat Shalom,

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 Be sure to login to ShulCloud if you never have at
It is very important to sign on to your ShulCloud account if you've never done so before or if it's been a while. Please make that a priority this week.  If you have any difficulty signing on to ShulCloud, we want to help you before the High Holidays. Not sure how to sign on? Click here to learn how:

How to Download ZOOM to Your Computer
Challah for the Holidays
The Publix at South College Road and Bragg Drive is taking advance orders for round Challahs for the Holidays. They will have plain and raisin for $3.99 each. There is usually a limited quantity, so order now by calling 910-313-2201.  

If you want round Challahs after Rosh Hashana and through Sukkot, order now and freeze. There is no guarantee they will be available beyond the week after Rosh Hashana. 

Apple Annie's on Kerr Ave and in Land Fall also has very good challah - 910-799-9023.
Cape Fear Counts
New Deadine to Respond: September 30, 2020

The 2020 Census will have a huge impact over the next decade in New Hanover County and the region.

Sunshine Meals needs your help!

We are looking for a few good cooks for Sunshine Meals!  2 at a time, with social distancing. 

Please call Michelle at 706-832-3048 if you like to help out.

Wondering about voting during a pandemic?

You can register to vote through October 9th and request an absentee ballot through October 27th.

Guidelines for Private Time before the Ark
Your safety is our primary concern, as is the safety of our rabbi, staff and all members. Therefore, we ask that you follow these guidelines when coming to the synagogue for Private Time before the Ark:

Please be aware that the temporary Ark being used for Private Time is located in the Social Hall.  The sanctuary and  permanent Ark are undergoing renovation. 
  • Please arrive about 10 minutes before your scheduled time slot.
  • Enter on Chestnut Street.
  • You will be required to sign a waiver Click here to see Waiver
  • Your temperature will be checked with a touchless thermometer
  • Face mask is required (we will provide one if needed)
  • Hands must be cleaned with hand sanitizer.
  • Social distancing must be maintained at all times.
  • Each time slot is for 15 minutes
  • In order to limit the number of persons in the building, we ask that you leave the building through the Chestnut St. entrance after your private time at the Ark is over. 

High Holidays
Are On The Way

Prayerbooks for Shabbat and High Holidays services are available!

You may pick them up at the synagogue during office hours, Monday- Friday, 10-4.  Call the office and we will have them ready for you!
We are also happy to deliver!  Call Kate at 910-762-1117 and let us know.

Need High Holiday Tickets?  

Although this year's services will be virtual, Rabbi Bender and the Ritual Committee are working diligently to provide both meaningful and spiritually fulfilling holidays for everyone.

Members have access to all services.  For nonmembers, the cost is $118.00 to be able to view all of our High Holiday services. Call the office to request tickets. Prior to the start of the holiday, you will be given the login information.  

Renovation Update
September 11, 2020

The HVAC is completed and awaiting inspection. The memorial boards have been laid out and are waiting for the electrician. We hope to have received the balance of the lighting fixtures by the end of next week. Finish work on the Ark has begun.

Rampway and Bimah
Placement of Memorial Plaques

Thursday Summer Learning 
Rabbi Bender

September 10 through
September 17th
at 7:30 pm on ZOOM
see email for link

Shabbat Services
Rabbi Bender

Friday evening, 
September 11, 6:00 pm
Saturday morning
September 12, 9:30 am

Book of Remembrance 

Sign-up deadline is
September 11

Sisterhood Event

Baking Round

Wednesday, Sept. 16
7:00 pm
watch for more info

Sisterhood Event

Sign-language Class

Sunday, October 18
1:00 pm
watch for more info.

B'nai Israel
Sisterhood Book 

Meeting on Zoom on
October 21, 1:00 on

Hadassah Shabbat

Shabbat Service
October 31
7:00 pm 

Dear Sisterhood Book Club Participants,

First, I want to remember with great affection and sadness, our book club member Elaine Lathrop, who was an active participant in our meetings and hosted one of the last (if not the last) in-person meeting we had. I also recall her insightful comments at our Zoom meeting about Unorthodox.  May our memories of this sweet, strong, kind woman always be for a blessing. 

Second, I want to remind you that we have two books for our October 21st meeting: The Floating Feldmans and Kaddish.Com. Both books were ordered for the B'nai Israel library and are in circulation.  The first book offers some good insights into the quirks of a dysfunctional Jewish family as they gather for a cruise.  The second tracks the spiritual departure and return of the main character Lennie, with satirical portrayals of Jews from Memphis to NYC to Jerusalem. 

If you would like to help host our double-portion book club on the 21st at
1:00 pm, please let me know at barbarawaxman@gmail.com.

May you all have good health and  a sweet New Year.


Hadassah Annual Shabbat Service
OCTOBER 30, 2020
7:00pm ON ZOOM

Traditionally Hadassah has had an annual Shabbat service. Since we rotate yearly between congregations, this year it would have been held at Temple Israel, but due to Covid-19 it will on ZOOM.

The Hadassah Shabbat will include all Hadassah members, plus this will be the Shabbat Service for all members of B'nai Israel and Temple of Israel.
We offer prayers of healing for the following:**

Steve Glaser
Sydel Gluck 
Cindy Throne

Faye Sobol
Henry Westreich
Kenneth Densmore

** Each week we will show our members and their families who wish to be on the Misheberach list.  Names will remain on the list for 3 months unless you ask us to remove them earlier.  Please contact the office to add or remove names.

The names of those who are not members but whom you wish to 
receive prayers will be read at Shabbat services.
One Room Shul House 
Coming Soon
This year the One Room Shul House 
will be free! 

The school year will start off with distance learning so for the meantime classes will be divided into developmentally appropriate smaller sizes. To help facilitate distance learning, all materials will be sent home with the student. 

In addition to the typical topics (Tikkun Olam, Holidays, Hebrew Language, Lifecycle, Prayer, History, Values, and Israel, to name a few) this year we will also be using a Covid-inspired supplemental curriculum called La'Briyut, To Our Health and Wellness, to provide Jewish context to our unusual times. The calendar will be released shortly (subject to change given the evolving nature of Covid). Please register as soon as possible and share widely!

Call or email Kate in the office to register: 

Fall Adult Ed Coming Soon

For the fall, we will be having two weekly classes. For variety of time, the proposed class times will be Tuesday "Lunch and Learn" and Thursday night class. One of these courses will be a 101 in Hebrew reading as well as answering the age old question of "What the Heck are we saying in services anyway?!"Another course will cover a variety of topics from Tanakh, to Talmud, to Jewish Literature and more!

Please email if you have a preference in timing for this classes, with the understanding that not everyone can be accommodated. 

Also please email is you are interested in an Introduction to Judaism Class. I have been approached by a few seekers of Judaism and want to try to expand the class. This class would be for those who are not Jewish and interested in exploring Judaism more deeply. There is absolutely no requirement for conversion, only the desire to learn. Interfaith couples may join together.

Finally, if you are interested in adult bar/bat mitzvah class, please email!

Rabbi Chaya Bender
B'nai Israel Congregation
C. 910-547-7595

2020 Birthdays & Anniversaries

Birthdays in September

Cody Jr.3-Sep

Anniversaries in September

Barbara & Michael

Felice & Lloyd

Mindy & Steven
Theresa & Kenneth

16-22 Elul  5780   ~   September 5-11, 2020

Albert LevineHusband of Shirley Levine and
father of Sharon Mechum & Stephen Levine
David DroginBrother of Carol Atwood
Isadore LibermanFather of Jim Liberman
Jack EvansonRespectfully remembered
Joseph Manfred BlockUncle of Franklin Block
Mabel EisensteinMother of Buddy Eisenstein
Marvin BirnbachFather of Jane Birnbach
Myrtle Abrams ZipserRespectfully remembered
Robert Bonnie ShainRespectfully remembered
Samuel MeyersonFather of Martin Meyerson
Samuel SilbergFather of Faye Sobol
Vinnie SteinRespectfully remembered
William F. ReillyHusband of Patricia Reilly

If you would like to make a donation to B'nai Israel, please click below
and use the Pay Online tab on our website.

Stein Family Charitable Foundation
Capital Improvement Fund
In support of
B'nai Israel Congregation
Barry & Pam Weiss
B'nai Israel Sisterhood
In memory of 
Elaine Lathrop
Barry & Pam Weiss
Rabbi's Discretionary Fund
Welcoming Rabbi Bender
to our community and family
Mr. & Mrs. Edward Lichtman
General Fund
In memory of 
Elaine Lathrop
Arlene & Stanley Weinrich
Rabbi's Discretionary Fund
In memory of Arlene's father,
Milton Goldfarb
Jack Markowitz
Rabbi's Discretionary Fund
In memory of
Elaine Lathrop
David & Arlene Burns
Rabbi's Discretionary Fund
In honor of the birth of Jim Liberman's
great granddaughter,
Ellen Rose Juarez
Judith Malman
Sunshine Meals
In appreciation for my Aliyah
for Rosh Hashana
Debbie & Mike Medress
Capital Improvement Fund
In memory of
all our loved ones
Mimi Bloch
Education Fund
In memory of
Beryl Bloch
Anita Liebeskind
Cemetery Fund
In memory of
Elaine Lathrop
Carol & Todd Atwood
Rabbi's Discretionary Fund
In memory of my brother,
David Drogin
Rita & Alan Katz
Building Fund
In memory of Elaine Lathrop
May her memory be for a blessing
Richard Weisman & Michelle Bannon
Capital Improvement Fund
In memory of
Elaine Lathrop
Felice & Lloyd Zeldin
General Fund
In honor of 
Donna Ratner's birthday
Dee & Murray Sherman
Kavanotes Fund
In memory of
Elaine Lathrop

Please help us to correctly direct your gift by including what fund you
would like your donation to support:  dues, event, benevolent fund, etc.  If you 
are making a donation in honor or memory of someone, please
include their name.

2020 Circle of Honor

 BenefactorCarol & Scott Johnston and
                   Ken & Theresa Densmore
               Patron:        Anonymous

Mark Alper
Judith Malman
Debbie & Jerry Smith
Barbara & Stanley Prushik
Martha & Steve Stein
Sharon & Terry Dresbach

Michelle Bannon & 
Rich Weisman
Sharon & Stephen Mechum
Dee & Murray Sherman
Leigh & Walter Winter
Roberta & Harold Eichenholz
Pam & Barry Weiss

For more information or to sign up for the Circle of Honor


B'nai Israel Congregation

Rabbi Chaya Bender

Website & ShulCloud Directory
Office Hours Monday thru Friday - 10:00 am to 4:00 pm
Administrative Secretary,  Kate Maclay

shabbat shalom