dare to stop the compare

3.april.2026

inspiration station

It's fun to compare men to women ... because, well - it's just funny. They are from Mars, we're from Venus. End of story.

But women vs. women? Hmmm. We females should be standing in absolute solidarity. Feeling happy for - and cheering on - whatever the other SHE does, looks like, and accomplishes!

SHE actually has nothing to do with YOU. You are two separate beings.

Compare ... compare ... compare. Why do we?

We are all shapes and sizes and heights, all colors, possess all kinds of characteristics and personalities. We blink, breathe, and speak differently. We have various hair, skin, teeth, backgrounds, abilities, nails, legs, buttocks, careers, ta-tas.

Like snowflakes and fingerprints, no two humans are alike. Oh no, but what do we do? We do this ...

She has beautifully manicured nails while mine look like the cat chewed on them.
She has the cutest tiniest feet while mine are the size of King Kong's.
Her perky smaller breasts stay put in the sports bra while jogging - while my Triple Ds look like two bowls of Jello in a fight!
Oh my, my hair is thin and stringy like Twiggy's, while hers is luscious and long, like a Disney princess.
Her job is the coolest, she gets to travel the world! Me? I've been a toll booth collector for 37 years.
Oh, why can't I have a smooth GQ husband like hers while mine acts like Scooby Doo?
Why didn't I dress up more for this party? She looks so put together while I look like a frumpy 94-year-old.
How is it her teeth are so perfectly white and straight at her age, while mine look like a piranha's?
She's so friendly! And I'm the Wicked Witch most days.

Snippeteers, what good does it do for us to compare ourselves in this way to others? How does it serve us?

And why don't we ever compare the other way around? Instead of HER GOOD THING VS. MY BAD THING ... why can't we promote something good about ourselves TO OURSELVES and not compare at all? Or even say something like, "Well, her feet may be tiny and cute, but my size 11s could kick ass if they had to!" 🤪

Let's attempt to be thankful for how we are constructed and how we are wired. God did that and He knew exactly what He was doing.

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"I can so relate to this approach. I am such a 'Sally Field' - and when people don't respond, I feel bad about myself. How could they not like my cheery and friendly self??? As I get older, it is easier to integrate that I just may not be everyone's cup of tea. After all, I can honestly say there are some people who just rub me the wrong way, too!! 😁 Thanks for your thoughtful and honest reflections on life."

~ Hugs, Sandy L in Sparks, Maryland

"Another good one. Thanks."

~ Dianne in Annapolis, Maryland

"You may be done pleasing people, but you've TOTALLY won over the pickleball guy!!! Cookies are no contest!! LOL!! :-) xoxo

~ Kelly M in Ellicott City, Maryland

"Perfect lesson for we Libras!"

~ Angie in Jarrettsville, Maryland

"Life is TOO short to try and win over everyone!!! Enjoy the ones that like and love us and feel sorry for the ones that do not. They are the ones missing out on our Greatness! Sending hugs."

~ All the Best, Patti & Tom in Cooperstown, New York

"Laughing because it's so true! What an important Snippet! Always wanted to make a good impression. As a born 'people pleaser,' I wanted everyone to like me. Learned an important lesson from a friend and mentor when she told me she stopped worrying about what other people thought about her when she realized how seldom they did. Wasted time. Live for yourself and those you love - and love you. Happy Spring ... Happy Easter."

~ Warmest regards, Pat W in Pennsylvania

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