The Deeply Forgetful at the Holidays
By Bob DeMarco | Alzheimer's Reading Room

The Holidays can be a very difficult time for Alzheimer’s caregivers. Instead of being happy we often end up sad on Christmas or Hanukkah.

The thing is we actually get to choose between happiness or sadness.

During the first few years instead of Christmas being a happy day for me and my mom it turned into a day of sadness.

I would go to great lengths to get my mom a bunch of small presents and wrap them up. A watch, a bracelet, earrings, and some nice cloths. Then much to my chagrin she showed very little reaction while opening them. This hurt my heart.

After a few years I finally realized it was not about me - it was about my mom.

It was up to me to find a way to make it a good time for her, not the other way around. After I found my way into Alzheimer’s World I realized that my mom was deeply forgetful.

She just didn’t know it was Christmas. She forgot. She was nothing more than deeply forgetful.

I decided it was up to me to find a way to make Christmas day, and the Christmas season meaningful to her. The result - my heart stopped hurting...