I don't mind writing and being honest about a spousal spat, because I know that those of you who are married, or in significant live-in relationships, have quibbles, too. It is an absolute normal part of marriage - and every relationship. Married people who tell us they never argue ...???... well, sorry, but I smell a touch of B.S. ca-ca.
Anyhow, it was one of those rides-down-the-argument-road as we were driving up the road discussing a few of the more tedious tasks and items on a couple's household agenda: home projects, booking repairs, cost to do them, and all that yawning stuff. Hubs and I were at it a good 15 minutes as I drove him to a dental surgery appointment.
Yet as soon as I pulled up in front of the office building, we stopped bickering, we leaned in, we kissed each other "see ya later, alligator," Hubs hopped out to go get drilled on, and I drove off in my little red Valentina.
It was over (the squabble - not the marriage). Yea, just like that.
Because why? Because love is the bottom line.
Hubs may drive me bonkers on certain days, we do not do things the same ways (at all), he loads the dishwasher ALL wrong, and leaves the toilet seat up, and makes funny noises while he's watching TV, but I love the big giant oaf. I mean, c'mon, we've invested 30 years in this thing - do you think a drive down the road bickering over household stuff is going to break us? Nah.
Snippeteers, just because you / we / she / he / they might bicker, does not mean the love is not there. It simply means you're having a spat. Does not mean divorce proceedings begin tomorrow. Does not mean you have to run to a marriage counselor ASAP. Does not mean you have to put on fresh sheets to sleep in the guest room bed. Does not mean you need to learn how to use that dating app your single friend is using.
Bickering and arguing only means you are in a relationship and not seeing eye to eye that minute, hour, or day. Now ... it is possible bickering, fighting, arguing can kill love, but it doesn't mean it has to. We can easily stop a fight and kiss and make up - then drive on.
We can easily remember that LOVE is the bottom line.
