Happy Friday, snippeteers ...
There is a very sweet service-related person I deal with regularly, and without getting into who and what, my observation is that she is very subservient. I mention it because it bothers me in a feel-sorry-for-her kind of way ... that a grown woman would think so little of herself to practically bow before others like this. She also constantly apologizes when there is no need for any I'm sorrys.
Who did a number on her in life, I wonder?
subservient: a submissive, meek person
who defers to what others want and always
obeys any command.
Truly, I simply feel sorry for this sweet person and wish I could wrap a huge box of self-confidence and drop it on her doorstep. It can't be she's afraid of me - I don't bite! I am fairly sure this is her standard M.O., most likely acting this way (unconsciously?) with others, too.
What is it? Do subservient people just try too hard to be a people-pleaser? Do they have a fear of rejection? Worried about upsetting others? Want everyone to like them? Possess low levels of self-worth?
I wish I could tell this person to stop it, wish I could encourage her to respect herself more, and to believe in her sweet self, to cease living in a state of apology. (Do you know anyone who habitually and unconsciously utters, "I'm sorry" every other sentence? I can think of three people I love who do this.)
Snippeteers, all peeps are created equal - yea, all that clichey stuff. We are not roaches. NO ONE is better than you ... NO ONE needs to 'bow' before anyone else ... NO ONE needs to constantly offer apologies. Not to him ... not to her .... not to a supervisor, a spouse or a friend ... not to the Pope.
We all get dressed the same way in the morning and brush our teeth (well maybe some of us Work-From-Home people might forget that part here and there, ew.) :p
Apologizing to people without cause, thinking you are inferior, or worrying you are always doing something the wrong way ... is not serving yourSELF very well ... it is demeaning, unfair and self-sabotaging.
How do you stop subservience?
- first, put on your CAPE!
- stand up STRAIGHT
- practice more AUTHORITY
- tap into your INNER POWER
- say NO
- STOP the apologies-for-nothing
- find your COURAGE
- think of yourself as STRONG
Unwrap that huge box of self-confidence ... it's right at your doorstep.
