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Take the Leap
When I tell people that I only saw my family eight times in four years while I was in college, the reaction is always the same — a look of shock, followed by an audible gasp.
Yes, I missed birthdays.
Yes, I missed holidays.
Yes, I missed special moments.
But what I didn’t miss was the opportunity to build a life bigger than the one I came from.
When I left my home states of California and Arizona to move to North Carolina for college, I understood something early on: home wasn’t going anywhere. Four years felt big at 18 years old — but in the grand scheme of a lifetime, it was just a blip. A small sacrifice for long-term dividends.
In high school, I knew I didn’t want to go to “High School 2.0” and attend an in-state school where I would see the same people as I did in high school, have the same experiences, and stay in the same comfort zone. I wanted to go as far as I could — physically and mentally. I wanted to take a leap of faith. It was sink or swim. And no one was coming to save me because it was a choice I had made for myself. So I bet on myself. I moved 3,000+ miles away, across three time zones, to a place where I had zero friends and zero family. I showed up with two suitcases, a backpack, a hand-me-down laptop that only worked if it was plugged in, $500 in gift cards, and my pride.
I honestly don’t know how I made it work.
But I did. Because when you put yourself in a new environment, you either adapt — or you get left behind. College didn’t just educate me academically. It stretched me. It matured me. It exposed me to new cultures, new perspectives, and new expectations. I had to grow up quickly. I learned who I was when things were hard. I learned what I was capable of. So when I say I only saw my family eight times, I don’t say it for sympathy. I say it with pride, because eight years later, I’m back in Arizona. I see my parents every day. I built a life — for my wife, for my kids, and for my parents — that allows us to live together. The four years that once felt so long now feel like nothing. And I would make that sacrifice again every single time if I knew the reward would be this life. So if you are on the fence about moving away for college… Taking that job across the country… Stepping into something unfamiliar and uncomfortable…
Understand this:
Taking a chance on yourself can be life-changing.
Do it without hesitation.
Do it without reservation.
Do it with pride, courage, and confidence.
Home is not a zip code.
Home is whatever and wherever you build it.
Bet on yourself.
The return on investment might be greater than you ever imagined.
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