After the results of the election were in - and were still being disputed, I realized that there is so much more to the narrative than just the election of a president. There are so many versions out there of "the story" and I realized that as important as it is to hear and listen to these stories, it is also important to tell YOUR story.
At CTTT - RVA we use the touchstones to be able to communicate in the process. Our Touchstones are guidelines we do our best to follow in all of our conversations. All 13 of them are listed in full on the national Coming To The Table website, and facilitators refer to them as they set the stage and tone for our discussions. Today I would like to highlight the importance of not only telling your truth, but in listening to the truth of others.

At CTTT, we work hard at learning and growing. We are here to understand and to become part of a new narrative through the listening and sharing of different people’s stories. In order to do this work, we must be able to speak our truth and be in a space comfortable enough to share our truth. We must speak from our own story.

Your experiences and your perceptions are important, so please say what is in your heart. Speak from that place where you are honest and vulnerable. Trust that your voice will be heard by those who truly want to hear – no matter how uncomfortable it might be for them to hear it. 

Here at CTTT, your contribution will be respected, even if it is different from or even opposite of what another has said. Remember – this is your story and maybe it is one that someone else in the group may not have identified with before you spoke it. As incredible as it seems, especially when it is part of your everyday, the very fabric of your life, you can’t imagine any other way - many people out there have not truly heard and digested your truth.

And it is important with this touchstone to own your truth by speaking only for yourself. Use “I” statements when relating a story, a feeling, an opinion. Your story, your heartfelt emotions, are important for others to hear. So, speak up and speak your truth.

You are the only you in this story. And others care to listen.

Go, Touchstones!!