April, 2026

Become Their Voice


April is a month that brings awareness to so many important issues - stress, alcohol use, and mental health. But awareness alone isn't enough.


What we've learned through Become Their Voice is this: we can't just KNOW better, we have to DO better.


Every conversation matters. Every connection matters. Every adult that chooses to step in, listen and care...matters more than they realize.


We continue to meet families, students, educators, and law enforcement who are all seeing the same thing - kids that are struggling, and many are struggling silently.


This month, we want to focus on what action actually looks like.


Not perfection.

Not having all the answers.

Just being present. Being aware. And being willing to step in.


Because the truth is - one conversation can change everything.


-- Kathy & Deric




The conversations we avoid are often the ones that matter most.


Talking about alcohol.

Talking about drugs.

Talking about suicide.

Talking about mental health.


Avoiding the topic does not protect our kids.

Preparation does.


Research shows that teens whose parents talk openly about substance use are less likely to engage in high-risk behaviors.


The key is tone.


Not interrogation.

Not lectures.

Not fear tactics.

Honesty.


You can say:


“I love you too much not to talk about this.”

“If you ever find yourself in trouble, call me.”

“Nothing you tell me will make me stop loving you.”


Uncomfortable conversations create safety.


Silence creates risk.




ALCOHOL AWARENESS: WHAT WE AREN’T TALKING ABOUT



April is Alcohol Awareness Month, and while most people think about underage drinking or addiction, the conversation needs to go deeper.




Because alcohol isn’t just impacting the people who drink it.


It’s impacting the people who are watching.


And more often than not… those people are our kids.



ALCOHOL IS OFTEN THE FIRST EXPOSURE



For many teens, alcohol is the first substance they encounter.



Not because they go looking for it.


But because it’s everywhere.


In homes - at family gatherings - celebrated at events


Joked about, normalized, and minimized




It’s seen as “no big deal.” -- But the truth is—it is a big deal.




The teenage brain is still developing, especially the areas responsible for:


  • Decision-making


  • Impulse control


  • Risk assessment


----- Alcohol interferes with ALL of it.



The earlier the exposure, the higher the risk for long-term impact.



WHAT KIDS SEE MATTERS MORE THAN WHAT WE SAY



We can tell our kids to make good choices.


But what they see us do carries more weight than anything we say.


Kids are always watching:


  • How often alcohol is used


  • How it’s talked about


  • How it’s used to cope with stress


  • How behavior changes after drinking



----- They are learning what is “normal.”



And when alcohol becomes the go-to for:


Stress - Celebrations - Relaxation


It quietly teaches them: this is how you handle life.



PARENTS DON’T REALIZE THE IMPACT


This is the part that’s hard—but necessary.



Many parents believe:


  • “I drink responsibly”


  • “My kids don’t notice”


  • “This doesn’t affect them”



----- But research—and real-life experience—says otherwise.



Children who grow up around frequent alcohol use are:


  • More likely to experiment earlier


  • More likely to normalize heavy drinking


  • More likely to struggle with boundaries later


And even more important…


They are more likely to connect alcohol with emotional relief.



THIS ISN’T ABOUT JUDGMENT—IT’S ABOUT AWARENESS


This is not about saying no one should ever drink.


This is about understanding influence.


Because whether we realize it or not, we are setting the standard our kids will follow.



A QUESTION WORTH ASKING


If your child grows up and handles stress, celebration, and emotions the exact same way you do…


Would you feel good about that?




WHAT YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW


Small shifts can make a big difference:


  • Be intentional about how alcohol is present in your home


  • Talk openly about it—don’t avoid the conversation


  • Model healthy ways to handle stress and emotions


Make sure your kids see that alcohol is not the only way to

unwind or cope




Because what they see today…becomes what

 they carry into their future.



FINAL THOUGHT



This isn’t about perfection. It’s about awareness. It’s about influence.


And it’s about protecting the next generation before patterns begin.




Because prevention doesn’t start when there’s a problem.


It starts with what our kids see every single day.




THE OLD ADAGE "DO WHAT I SAY AND NOT WHAT I DO"


IS NOT A MESSAGE WE WANT TO SEND

The Hidden Cost of Stress: What It’s Doing to Our Minds, Bodies, and Families



Stress is not just a feeling.


It is a full-body response—and when it becomes chronic, it quietly impacts everything: our health, our relationships, and the emotional safety of our homes.


What Stress Does to the Body


When stress is constant, the body stays in a heightened “fight or flight” state. Over time, this leads to:


  • Increased heart rate and blood pressure


  • Headaches, muscle tension, and chronic fatigue


  • Sleep disruption and exhaustion


  • Weakened immune system (getting sick more often)


  • Digestive issues and inflammation


  • Hormonal imbalances



For both adults and kids, the body was never designed to live in a constant state of pressure. And yet, many are.



What Stress Does to the Mind


Chronic stress changes how we think, process, and respond:


  • Difficulty focusing or making decisions


  • Increased anxiety and constant worry


  • Irritability and short tempers


  • Racing thoughts or feeling mentally overwhelmed


  • Memory issues


  • Higher risk of anxiety disorders, depression, and substance use



For kids, this can show up differently:


  • Trouble concentrating in school


  • Behavioral issues or acting out


  • Withdrawal or shutting down


  • Increased screen use as an escape



What Stress Does Emotionally


Stress doesn’t just live in the body—it shapes how we feel and connect:


  • Feeling overwhelmed or “on edge”


  • Emotional reactivity (overreacting to small things)


  • Mood swings


  • Feeling disconnected or numb


  • Loss of motivation or joy




Over time, stress can shift a person’s entire emotional baseline.


The Part We Don’t Talk About Enough


Kids Are Watching—and Absorbing—Everything


Children don’t just hear stress.


They feel it, watch it, and internalize it.



When kids regularly see their parents overwhelmed, anxious, or emotionally reactive, it impacts them in deep ways:


  • They begin to feel unsafe—even if nothing is “wrong”


  • They may blame themselves for the tension


  • Their nervous systems mirror what they see (they become more anxious or reactive)


  • They learn that stress is the normal way to handle life


  • They may suppress their own emotions to avoid “adding more stress”



Even when nothing is said out loud, kids are incredibly perceptive.



They notice:


  • Tone of voice


  • Body language


  • Tension in the home


  • Emotional availability (or lack of it)



And they carry it.



Why This Matters More Than Ever


We are seeing rising rates of:


  • Anxiety in children


  • Depression in teens


  • Substance use as a coping mechanism




And while there are many factors, chronic stress in the home environment plays a significant role.




Kids don’t need perfect parents.


But they do need regulated, aware, and present adults.


A Simple but Powerful Shift


This is not about eliminating stress—that’s not realistic.




It’s about:


  • Being aware of how stress is showing up


  • Managing it in healthier ways


  • Modeling emotional regulation


  • Creating moments of calm and connection




Because the greatest protection we can give

kids is not a stress-free life…



It’s showing them how to handle stress in a healthy way.





Your Life Iowa is a great resource if you need information about

any of the topics below.



There are options for teens and adults

including treatment and treatment facilities.



  • About addiction
  • Alcohol
  • Drugs
  • Gambling
  • Suicide
  • Mental health
  • Maternal health
  • Vaping
  • Brain injury
  • Community trauma
  • Stigma
  • Prevention
  • Recovery



EVENTS IN IOWA



Events in April


Mental Health First Aid Training

  • When: April 1–2, 2026
  • Where: Western Iowa Tech Community College — Cherokee, IA
  • Focus: Learn how to identify, understand, and respond to signs of mental illness and substance use disorders with community-oriented tools and support.


Suicide Prevention Training (North Central Behavioral Health & Rosecrance)

  • When: April 2, 2026 • 9:30 AM–11:30 AM
  • Where: (Virtual, registration likely required)
  • Focus: Suicide prevention training designed to equip participants with tools to recognize crisis signs and support individuals in need.


“Stay Independent: Planning Ahead for Future Care” (Behavioral Health Context)

  • When: April 14, 2026 • 1:00 PM
  • Where: Tama, IA
  • Focus: While not strictly mental health only, this session from Iowa Extension includes planning and well-being concepts often relevant to those coping with life transitions, stress, and caregiving burdens.


“Powerful Tools for Caregivers — Adults” (Mental Health Support Focus)

  • When: April 16, 2026 • 12:00 PM
  • Where: Iowa City, IA
  • Focus: A caregiver education series that supports stress management, self-care and resilience — an important adjunct to family mental health support.


Governor’s Conference on Behavioral Health (Pre-Conference)

  • When: April 21–23, 2026
  • Where: Virtual statewide event
  • Focus: Iowa’s Annual Governor’s Conference on Behavioral Health offers continuing education, learning sessions, and policy discussions around mental health and substance use prevention and treatment statewide (including pre-conference ethics training on April 21).


Weekly — NAMI Carroll County Support Groups

  • When: April 7 & April 14, 2026 • 5:30–7:00 PM
  • Where: NAMI Carroll County — 1240 Heries Ave, Carroll, IA
  • Focus: Peer-led Connection and Family Support groups for people living with mental health challenges and their families. 


Upcoming Events in May


NAMIWalks

  • When: May 27th | 6:30PM - 8:00PM
  • Where: Page County Courthouse Lawn, Clarinda
  • Focus: Mental health awareness, community support, and fundraising. This is an evening walk bringing together community members and advocates. Focus is on breaking stigma and supporting those affected by mental illness.


NAMIWalks - National "United Day of Hope"

  • When: May 16th
  • Where: National and local participation opportunities
  • Focus: Mental health awareness and community solidarity. Many local communities participate with this national event


NAMI Connection Recovery Support Group

  • When: 1st & 3rd Tuesdays of May | 6:30PM - 8:00PM
  • Where: Council Bluffs
  • Focus: Peer-led support for individuals experiencing mental health conditions


NAMI Connection (Online - Iowa Residents)

  • When: Every Thursday | 6:30PM - 8:00PM
  • Where: Virtual
  • Focus: Accessible mental health support statewide


NAMI Family Support Group

  • When: 1st & 3rd Thursdays | 7:30PM - 9:00PM
  • Where: Hybrid (in-person and virtual options)
  • Focus: Support for families of individuals struggling with mental health. Free, peer-led, and confidential


Veterans Mental Health Gathering

  • When: 2nd Monday of May | 6:00PM - 7:30PM
  • Where: Shenandoah
  • Focus: Mental health support and connections for veterans. Informal, supportive environment with peer connection


If your organization has an upcoming event and would like us to add it to our newsletter, please contact us.



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