by Allison Percival, Assistant Publisher
It's been a tough week for all of us. There have been a lot of big changes in a short period of time and it's been a real challenge to get into a flow! Are you struggling, or are you finding a system which works?
Here are a few suggestions we've heard from some of our readers this week which we really like:
- Set Daily Goals or Make a Schedule
The word "schedule" scares a lot of parents. If it doesn't work for your family to have a task allocated every fifteen minutes, don't do it! If you find that your days are slipping away from you, though, it's a good idea to consider scheduling in a few key things which are getting missed. Pick a specific time each day to do chores as a family, get schoolwork done, make breakfast or even have a conversation and you're less likely to let those things slide.
Schedules not your thing? A list of daily goals - walk the dog, eat a vegetable, have a shower, get dressed, do 30 minutes of exercise - can go a long way to providing some much-needed structure. Remember to make them 'SMART' - specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound!
- Give Everyone a "Quiet Corner"
If you don't have a lot of living room, personal space can feel like a luxury - especially when shared bedrooms and offices are a factor! You don't need a lot of room to make this work, though; all you need is enough space for a cozy 'nook' for each kid to go when they're overwhelmed.
Here are some ideas.
This can be a literal corner of a room, a storage closet or even underneath a table! Let them decorate it with pictures, drape it with sheets and fill it with cozy cushions if they like. Fill it with sensory toys, lights, calming activities or headphones for listening to music. Make it a house rule that you're not allowed to disturb someone in their quiet space unless it's an emergency.
- Have Regular Family Meetings and Share Responsibilities
If you have older kids, now is a great time to teach them how to take care of some responsibilities around the house. Can they take the garbage to the bin? Look after the dog? Make their own bed? Sort laundry? Plan a menu or make a grocery list? You'd be surprised how capable kids are when they're allowed to take over a chore - and with so much extra time at home, this is a good opportunity for them to learn and make mistakes.
Do you feel resentment simmering? Make a point of having a family meeting at least once a week, if not more often. Talk about how you're feeling in honest terms. Let everyone share their thoughts about how things are going and what they'd like to see more of or less of. This can be hard with young kids, but just having a set time to air concerns can be beneficial for even little ones. Don't forget to have a follow-up meeting with your partner or any other live-in adults; focus on task allocation, "mental labor" (like being in charge of making lists, checking pantry stocks and remembering chores), and pet responsibilities. Choose a time when everyone is calm and ready to listen.