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From the Desk of the Diocesan Council President
Someone once told me they had over 300 friends.
“Wow, how do you keep up with them all,” I asked. “On Facebook of course”, was the response.
So I said, “They’re not really friends in the true sense, you really don’t know them as a person, you don’t know that much about them, their family, their history. You’ve probably never met some of them. You only know what they post on Facebook, how can they be friends?”
Social media has now taken the place of the family and true friendship. Now it’s all about how many followers you have, how many clicks you can get.
What is a friend? All my life I have been very picky about who I call a friend, a true friend. My first true friend was a classmate in the first grade named Bobby. Bobby was a big kid with red hair and we were close, almost inseparable. We were much alike, a little undisciplined, fun loving, a little bit of a trouble maker. Bobby’s dad was in the military and they moved away and I still think of Bobby now and then.
I had a lot of friends in grade school, high school, and college, but I found that some could not be counted on when the chips were down, so they were no longer friends. And, sadly, a lot of the people I’ve called friends are no longer here.
What is a true Friend? A true friend is someone who will stick by you and support you no matter what. A true friend is someone who believes in you and encourages you to go on, when it seems hopeless. A true friend is someone who asks for very little, but offers so much more.
True friends might lay down their life for you and hope that you would do the same for them. True friends will love you no matter how difficult you might make it for them. True friends can always be trusted. I married a true friend a long time ago, and another I met later in life, my wife Donna, and Jesus Christ.
I was in my forties when Jesus became a true friend. I knew Him before, but I really never embraced him as a friend. Father Tony, from my parish in New Jersey, introduced me to the real Jesus, the Jesus I had not met before and so I had another true friend.
As Vincentians we are asked to not only provide financial assistance to our neighbors, but to offer the spiritual encouragement they sometimes long for. If they don’t know Jesus or have lost Him as a friend, we encourage them to embrace Him by showing them compassion and love as Jesus teaches us.
Let us remember that spiritual help is as important as financial help, perhaps more so. Don’t be afraid to introduce your friend, Jesus, to those who seek Him.
Gary Bishop
President
Diocesan Council of Orlando
gary@svdporlando.org
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