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A Student Perspective
In this week’s Parsha, we see the happiest moment in Yitzchak and Rivkah’s life, as Yitzchak marries Rivkah and loves her deeply, as its said in
בראשית כ״ד:ס״ז) וַיְבִאֶ֣הָ יִצְחָ֗ק הָאֹ֙הֱלָה֙ שָׂרָ֣ה אִמּ֔וֹ וַיִּקַּ֧ח אֶת־רִבְקָ֛ה)
וַתְּהִי־ל֥וֹ לְאִשָּׁ֖ה וַיֶּאֱהָבֶ֑הָ וַיִּנָּחֵ֥ם יִצְחָ֖ק אַחֲרֵ֥י אִמּֽו׃
And Yitzchak brought her into the tent of Sarah, his mother, and he took Rivkah as his wife, and he loved her, and Yitzchak was comforted after his mother.
This pasuk not only shows the marriage of Yitzchak and Rivkah but also the deeper emotional and spiritual parts of their relationship. Rashi explains that Rivkah, when entering the tent, mirrored the qualities and presence of Sarah. Sarah’s tent was a place filled with Hashem’s presence and comfort: the light of a constant candle, the fresh dough, and the cloud of Hashem’s presence above it. These three things were not there after Sarah’s death but returned when Rivkah entered. This suggests that Rivkah filled the spiritual and emotional emptiness left by Sarah’s passing. The tent not only represents a physical space but also an atmosphere of warmth, security, and Hashem’s presence. Yitzchak bringing Rivkah into his mother’s tent shows that he saw in her the continuation of his mother’s legacy, not just in the external image, but in the same character and spirit that defined Sarah.
Additionally this pasuk shows Yitzchak’s love for Rivkah, which is described as a comforting love. Rashi notes that it is natural for a man to find comfort in his wife after the death of his mother, as his wife becomes the main emotional pillar in his life. Yitzchak’s love for Rivkah was not only a response to her physical beauty and attraction but it was a deeper emotional connection that helped him move on from the loss of his mother. Rivkah’s role in Yitzchak’s life was not just as a partner, but also a source of comfort and emotional strength. The Kedushat Levi adds another point about the nature of their love. Two types of love a person can feel for their spouse. One type is love based on physical desire, a love rooted in self-interest and personal satisfaction. The other is love rooted in spiritual and moral alignment, where they are loved as a partner in fulfilling the commandments of God. Yitzchak’s love for Rivkah, according to the Kedushat Levi, was the second kind. His love was not based on personal needs, but on the acknowledgment that Rivkah was the person who would help him achieve a deeper connection to God and carry on the values of his family.
These two types of love teach us that true love is not entirely based on physical desires, but rather on emotional support and shared values. Yitzchak and Rivkah’s marriage was a partnership in the truest sense, a marriage that went above the physical and into the spiritual. Their relationship shows the power of love. Yitzchak’s love for Rivkah was a love that brought comfort after loss, filled the space left by his mother’s passing, and allowed him to continue the legacy of his parents. This is an example for what a loving relationship should be, where love is a means to grow together in fulfilling a greater purpose. In a world often focused on the physical, their relationship shows the importance of having a love that goes beyond physical attraction and self-interest. True partnership involves emotional support, respect, and shared values. Whether that’s helping each other through life’s challenges or trying to fulfill a greater spiritual or personal goal together.
In our own relationships, we can try to create a love that comforts us in times of need, strengthens us in our individual journeys, and creates an environment where both of us grow. Like Yitzchak and Rivkah, we can look to have relationships not just as a source of personal happiness, but as a partnership that deepens our connection to each other and to the values that we follow.
Shabbat Shalom,
Leeby Kessock '25
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