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Hello Friends and Supporters,
It’s my privilege to connect with you, the individuals and organizations dedicated to reshaping how we approach conflict. At the Center for Understanding in Conflict, we believe deeply in the power of understanding as the foundation for resolving disputes. Over the years, we’ve seen how this approach not only resolves conflict but also strengthens relationships, fosters mutual respect, and empowers those involved.
Conflict can feel like an insurmountable barrier, yet it also holds within it the seeds of profound transformation. Our work together demonstrates that when parties engage directly with each other, supported by the tools of understanding, they are capable of finding solutions that truly reflect their values and needs. This approach honors the humanity of everyone involved and reminds us that conflict need not divide—it can connect and heal.
As we continue to share resources and build opportunities for learning—through training programs, webinars, and other offerings—we remain committed to equipping professionals across disciplines to help those in conflict find their own paths to resolution. Whether you’re a legal or therapeutic professional, a mediator, or simply someone drawn to the challenge of understanding conflict, know that your work matters and makes a difference.
Thank you for joining us in this mission. Together, we are proving that conflict, while challenging, can be a force for positive change.
In partnership,
James Dykeman
Executive Director
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JOIN US AT THE HIGHLIGHTS FOUNDATION RETREAT | |
June 23 – 28, 2024, Milanville, PA
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Join the Center for Understanding in Conflict for a comprehensive 40-hour Basic Mediation Training covering basic theory and skills of understanding-based mediation in a dynamic and engaging learning environment at the beautiful and restorative Highlights Retreat Foundation Barn at Boyd Mills.
This certificate program teaches individuals the basic theories and practical skills needed to help people in conflict with an added emphasis for those wishing to practice matrimonial conflict resolution and mediation.
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Our trainers have designed this program to benefit those who wish to apply to be mediators on NYS court rosters. However, it is appropriate and applicable for professionals of all disciplines. | |
Making the Split: A Path to Healing and Hope
through Understanding
Imagine sitting down, not across from an opponent, but beside someone who once shared your dreams, and being given the tools to navigate your differences with respect. Mediation doesn’t erase the pain of separation, but it transforms how that pain is carried. Instead of feeling broken apart, families discover ways to realign and rebuild—on their terms, in their words, with solutions tailored to their unique lives.
For many legal and therapeutic professionals, matrimonial conflict resolution and mediation aligns with the reasons they entered their chosen field in the first place. It’s about service. Connection. Making an impact when it’s needed most. Lawyers who once felt confined by the rigidity of the courtroom and therapists who long to be part of meaningful change often find a deep sense of purpose. It’s an opportunity to help people through one of life’s most difficult transitions in a way that honors their humanity.
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A Guide to Divorce Mediation by Gary J. Friedman
At its core, this book emphasizes the value of communication and empathy in resolving disputes. Rather than glossing over the emotional complexity of divorce, Friedman encourages readers to acknowledge and explore their feelings. He views conflict not as something to avoid but as a tool for deeper understanding. With that foundation, couples can uncover what truly matters to each of them and find solutions that meet both practical and emotional needs.
The process outlined is built on the understanding-based approach, which centers on the idea that the people involved in the conflict are the ones best equipped to resolve it. By creating space for open conversations and mutual exploration, mediation avoids the adversarial tactics that often escalate tension in traditional divorce proceedings. The book provides couples with tools to work through disagreements, including clear frameworks for discussing finances, parenting plans, and other practical matters, while keeping the focus on shared goals and fairness.
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Mindfulness and Understanding with Guest David Dörken
In this episode of The Other Chair, guest David Dörken shares his unique approach to conflict resolution, blending legal expertise with Zen principles of mindfulness and non-judgmental awareness. Discover how stillness and presence can transform conflict into opportunities for connection and growth.
Learn practical tips for managing emotions and engaging in direct communication during mediation sessions.
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Our flagship experiential certificate training programs centered in the Understanding-Based Model | |
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In this gold standard mediation training, learn how to support parties working through conflict or engaging in other important conversations in a different way. Our Understanding-Based model focuses on guiding parties to make knowing and informed choices together in a respectful manner. Highlights include:
- Positive neutrality –supporting all parties without taking sides
- The Loop of Understanding – enhancing understanding and empathy
- Creative Options — innovating to meet differing needs and interests
- A Foundation for the Future — building the groundwork for the parties to make effective and lasting decisions together now and in the future
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West Coast
March 5 - 9, 2025
November 5 - 9, 2025
East Coast
June 23 - 28, 2025
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Working Creatively with Conflict: 40-Hour Conflict Resolution and Matrimonial Mediation Training (East Coast)
Participants will learn matrimonial law and the core skills of the Understanding Based Approach, through lively demonstrations and role-plays, all of which immerse participants in the learning (16 and 24-hour can be taken seperately, or together for a 40-hour program). Realistic simulations, in which participants work through mediations with coaching from our teachers, offer participants the chance to hone their skills and experience the emotional challenges faced by parties in dispute. Participants describe these different modes of learning and their interplay as engaging and rewarding.
Upon completing this 40h Mediation Intensive Training, participants will have completed the requirements for a 24h Basic Mediation Training under Part 146 of the NYS Rules of the Chief Administrator of the Courts (“Part 146”) and the requirements for a 16-hour Advanced Matrimonial Mediation Training under Part 146.
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Learn to Navigate Difficult Conversations
Join our expert-led series focused on transforming high-stakes conversations into opportunities for deeper understanding and connection. Over multiple sessions, you’ll learn practical strategies for managing conflict, de-escalating tension, and fostering open dialogue. Grounded in values of empathy, clarity, and collaboration, this series equips you to navigate difficult dynamics and build stronger, more trusting relationships. Ideal for professionals, mediators, and anyone facing challenging interactions.
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Join a Support and Development Group in 2025
The CUC Support and Development Group is a virtual series that meets monthly for five months. This small, focused group offers professionals trained at the Center for Understanding in Conflict the chance to deepen their skills, explore complex cases, and discuss challenges they face in their practice. Facilitated by experienced trainers, the sessions emphasize peer learning and advanced topics in mediation. It's a valuable opportunity for growth and connection within a supportive, understanding-based community.
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Conflict professionals and mediators can encounter cases where traditional approaches fall short – when parties deliberately mislead, launch personal attacks, or harbor intense hatred that seems insurmountable. This practical webinar equips conflict resolution professionals with advanced techniques for transforming these volatile situations into opportunities for breakthrough. Learn how to use positive neutrality to empathetically and effectively engage parties to participate productively. | |
COMMUNITY VIDEO FOR FEBRUARY | |
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Untying the Knot: Making Sense of Divorce Mediation
Have you considered matrimonial mediation’s benefits, such as fostering amicable communication, preserving relationships, and reducing the financial burden? What about potential drawbacks? Whether you’re a legal professional, a divorcing individual, or simply curious about mediation, this webinar promises valuable insights to empower informed decisions during challenging times.
Join Katherine Miller to explore the advantages and disadvantages of understanding-based divorce mediation.
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