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Am I really sorry?
I have been one of those people who always say, “I’m Sorry.” It started back as a teenager and has stuck with me ever since. I didn’t know it back then but the real reason for frequent apologies even when not needed or deserved is unworthiness and all the insecurities that came with it. Sometimes, saying “sorry” is about low self-worth. You feel sorry for even existing. Deep down you wonder if people even like you or want to be around you?
One of the reasons for frequently apologizing for basically everything is feeling fear that people will be mad at you or not like you. The fear of conflict, maybe you grew up with too much conflict in your home and an apology would stop it. We feel if we apologize, we can stop it from becoming worse. It’s a safe word or so we think. Unfortunately, we can apologize for everything but still feel insecure and unworthy. The apology might give you a moment of relief but in the long term it's just prolonging the pain.
It's time to deal with the “why” behind all the apologizing.
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