THE PIVOT MAN

Mark Murray


Life and Leadership Coach

Pivot, Don't Pause

September 2026

Blue Zone Principle #7: Right Tribe



The People Around You Matter More Than You Think

In past newsletters we have discussed Blue Zones, what they are and how we can learn from them.


In a handful of places around the world—known as the Blue Zones—people live longer, healthier, and more fulfilling lives. What’s surprising isn’t just their longevity, but how they live: with purpose, connection, and simple daily habits that compound over time.


The 7th Blue Zone principle, Right Tribe, is about building strong social circles with people who support positive, healthy behaviors.


We often think of healthy living as a matter of personal discipline: eating better, exercising more, managing stress, and making good choices. But Blue Zone research points to another powerful influence: the people we surround ourselves with.


Habits can be contagious. When the people around us are active, optimistic, engaged, and supportive, those behaviors tend to rub off. The same is true in our professional lives. Surround yourself with people who encourage growth, exchange ideas, challenge you constructively, and celebrate your progress, and you’re more likely to keep moving forward.


Your “tribe” doesn’t have to be large. A handful of meaningful relationships can provide encouragement, accountability, perspective, and a sense of belonging.

Take a look at the people you spend the most time with. Do they energize you or drain you? Encourage you or discourage you? Help you grow or keep you standing still?


Choosing your tribe isn’t about surrounding yourself with people who always agree with you. It’s about building relationships with people who bring out the best in you—and being that kind of person for them in return.



The right people don’t just make the journey more enjoyable. They can help change where the journey takes you.


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Imagine a table with five chairs around it.

Now think about the five people you spend the most time with, or whose opinions, attitudes, and behaviors have the greatest influence on you.

Who is sitting in those chairs?


For each person, ask yourself:

Do they…

  • Encourage me to take care of myself?
  • Support my goals and ambitions?
  • Challenge me in a positive way?
  • Bring optimism and positive energy into my life?
  • Celebrate my successes rather than compete with them?
  • Tell me the truth when I need to hear it?
  • Inspire me to become a better version of myself?


Now ask one more important question:

What kind of person am I at THEIR table?


A strong tribe isn't just about finding people who support you. It's about being someone who supports, encourages, challenges, and inspires others, too.

You don't need a huge circle. You need the right circle.


Take a look at who's at your table. Are they helping you become the person you want to be? And are you doing the same for them?


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When Someone Important To You Isn't Part of Your "Right Tribe"

It happens. You love someone or an old friend or you just enjoy someone's company, but they don't fit the "Right Tribe" model that can raise you up.


Fortunately, choosing the right tribe doesn’t necessarily mean eliminating people from your life. Some relationships are important even when the person doesn’t support the habits, goals, or outlook you’re trying to develop.


The key is learning to separate loving someone from allowing them to influence you.


You can:

  • Set boundaries. Decide which behaviors, conversations, or situations you will and won't participate in.
  • Change their seat at the table. Someone can remain important to you without being one of your primary influences.
  • Stop seeking support where it isn't available. Your oldest friend may be wonderful company but terrible at encouraging your business goals. Appreciate what they can give you. Find your encouragement elsewhere.
  • Expand your circle. You don't necessarily need fewer people, you may need more of the right people. Seek friendships, mentors, networking groups, clubs, or communities that reinforce the direction you want to go.
  • Lead by example rather than trying to change them. Your healthier choices may eventually influence them, but their choices remain theirs.
  • Protect your progress. If someone's negativity or behavior continually pulls you backward, greater distance may sometimes be necessary.


You don't always have to remove someone from your table. Sometimes you simply need to change where they sit.


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Mark Murray-Pivot, Don't Pause

Mark Murray Life and Leadership Coach, known as "The Pivot Man," specializes in providing professional coaching services that focus on personal growth and robust business development. This unique and tailored coaching aims to enhance leadership skills and empower clients to achieve their goals.


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