Do you know who your authentic self is?

When on a date, do you present your authentic self? Or do you change who you are to keep them interested? Do you end up making an impression that you're not able to live up to on the next date?

Behind these questions is an even more important one: Do you know who your authentic self is? Can your tell the difference between conditioned habits and real preferences? Do you know what brings you energy and what drains it?

In our most recent podcast, Barry and I talk about choosing to stay grounded in your values and needs while looking for love. We explain why authenticity, honesty, self-respect, and knowing what you truly want are essential to finding a healthy relationship.

Learn how to stop people-pleasing. Trust yourself, and build connections where you are appreciated for who you really are.

The right relationship will not require you to lose yourself to find love. Dating can feel challenging enough, however being true to yourself will make it a whole lot easier and more joyful. 

Barry Selby and I explore dating and relationship topics in our talk show each Thursday at 1 p.m. PST. We'd love to have you join us! To see a complete list of our past shows, visit Going Solo.

A list of videos is also available on my YouTube channel.

For more about Barry, visit BarrySelby.com.

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As a coach, I've helped hundreds of people successfully through their dating and relationship processes. I enjoy listening carefully to who you are, and then using that knowledge to help you explore your dating and relationship needs.

Take the first step toward achieving your dream of a happy and fulfilling romantic relationship! Fill out my questionnaire What's Holding You Back From Love, and then let's talk.

My coaching is deeply influenced by my own period of online dating. It was a wonderful time of challenges and discoveries. Not only did I become an expert at online dating back then, I figured out how to have fun while doing it. And it led me to meet and marry my late husband.

As a widow, I have a new level of understanding about dating after loss. Widows (and widowers) tell me "all the dating rules have changed". They tell me they wish they could skip the dating part and just find a wonderful relationship. And I know what they mean. The good news is - my clients and I have discovered there are many safe and proactive ways to re-enter the dating world. And I'm here to tell you, they really do work!