Principal's Welcome
Welcome to MacArthur Middle School, home of the Marauders!
Today is the day of the Autumnal Equinox, also known as the first official day of fall, a time when we have equal day and night, a perfect balance.
One of the balances on which I am always working is that of a middle school leader and a middle school dad. I never get a break from the early adolescents!
It is actually pretty cool! Kids this age are fun because of how vividly they experience life. When they are excited, they show it, and when they are frustrated or struggling, they often show it as well. Finding that balance can be a little more difficult than those of us a little more advanced in our years.
Related to finding that balance was our guest speaker, Dr. Doug Bolton. As a district we hosted him for an evening in our MacArthur library to share his topic on "Raising Resilient Children." While I have heard him speak before, it was more through the lens of a school leader. On Tuesday, his message hit me more as a dad, especially when he talks about MISbehavior actually being a STRESSbehavior. He details the 5 Domains of Stress: Biological, Emotional, Cognitive, Social, Prosocial. When Dr. Bolton asked the audience, "Have you ever lost your temper, shut down, or avoided something, and NOT been stressed", I had to chuckle because I think that is about 100% of the time.
It is the stress that causes a change in behavior. Stress depletes our energy. When my son is studying for his Chemistry test (Cognitive stress), he can have a short answer to his mom and me when we remind him to empty the dishwasher or change a laundry load. Sometimes my daughter is avoiding her Algebra homework after a volleyball loss (Emotional stress) because she doesn't have the cognitive load to begin solving equations. If I am hungry (Biological stress), I seem to lose all my patience at the slightest struggle in planning or problem solving. (Webster's has officially added the word "Hangry" to their dictionary!)
You and your kids are no different. When we are stressed, we are not the people we want to be. Take some time this weekend to find your balance, just like our seasons are finding balance in the equinox!
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