friday.12.november.2021

inspiration station when our world gets rocked

My beautiful mother died :-( Our sweet Mamma Gina. My world has been rocked. Altered. Different. Saddened. Scattered. Turned upside down. Bowled over. Temporarily blackened. My light has blinked off for a while. The pit in my stomach, the lump in my throat, feeling low, the physical heavy heart (a broken heart may be an actual thing). The stuck tears, the lesser energy, the only wanting to spend time watching home movies and looking at younger photos of my then-vibrant Mamma Gina. Or talking about her. Or screaming. The urge to be near my three siblings, my kids, my husband, my Aunt Rose (Mamma's sister), my cousins. Who cares about anything else right now? Grief is love that has nowhere to go. Thank God for my strong faith - how do people without it process a loved one's death? Mamma taught us faith. I know exactly where she is right now - and with whom she has been reunited. I know she is dancing with Papa Louie - once again in each other's arms. Such PURE LOVE they shared! I know she is free of that damn wheelchair, and free of ill health. She is full of JOY - and youth - and for that, I feel grateful. Even if I have to adjust to her being around in a different format. She's already sent many angel signs. Still looking out for me - still loving me - still comforting me - even in death. The Catholic Chaplain in the hospital room October 29th with me as Mamma crossed over, said it was good that I was praying and talking with Mom as she faded, because "she knows your voice with every fiber of her being." I loved hearing that - loved it. She also told me after it was over ... "You just loved your Mother into eternity." What should we do when our world gets rocked? answer the door - a friend is waiting to hug us on the other side read the supportive words someone emails, writes in a card, or texts - carefully look for the signs of comfort - they pour in (like the little bird which just landed on the screen of my office window, yes, right now as I am typing. Hi Mamma.) stand in the hug - really feel it - make it last long - don't pull away too fast let people feed you take a pajama day find and do what makes you smile again (home movies, in my case) understand that life is still moving, so go smash that pickleball!!! pray about it don't hold back your tears smell all the pretty flowers take your time read a booklet about heaven (thanks, Kelly Molino) set up an "away" message on your email accept the assistance offered (people will ask, "What can I do?" They actually mean it - so delegate tasks) sleep when you can self-care is crucial let someone else empty the dishwasher it's okay if your watch is on upside down I hope for most of you sweet snippeteers, there is nothing rocking your world right now. Yet if so, I hope some of this helps you - in whatever situation. God bless us everyone ... especially during times when our world gets rocked.

snippeteer backtalk

reactions to the last snippet ... know the info

"Sometimes it’s hard to think before you speak. But you did have a long day and I can attest to how tired you were. Don’t be so hard on yourself." ~ Nancy in Maryland "I think we've all 'barked' before thinking ... I wonder what Judgmental Judy would say? Did she permanently retire and I missed it?? I do hope you are enjoying your every-other-Friday!" ~ Meg in Yardley, PA 

this issue of SNIPPETS is devoted in memory of my #1 snippeteer, Mamma Gina, who always read every word I wrote.

I am envisioning this is how my parents look in heaven. (joyful on their June 1955 honeymoon in Miami, Florida)

prayer flares

email a prayer FOR Stacey's restored health FOR Michele's continued grief over the loss of her mom

FOR Johnny Wayne nearing the end of life FOR our Molino family as we grieve and adjust to life without Mamma Gina FOR the Crist family on the loss of their mom / mom-in-law / grandmom FOR the Bennett Family on the loss of their sweet daughter and sister, Celeste FOR Barb T grieving the loss of her parents within a short

good to giggle (cuz we gotta laugh)

queen of quotes

musical healing

If I had only known the last time would be the last time I would've put off all the things I had to do I would've stayed a little longer, held on a little tighter Now what I'd give for one more day with you 'Cause there's a wound here in my heart where something's missing And they tell me that it's gonna heal with time But I know you're in a place where all your wounds have been erased And knowing yours are healed is healing mine The only scars in heaven, they won't belong to me and you There'll be no such thing as broken, and all the old will be made new And the thought that makes me smile now, even as the tears fall down

Is that the only scars in heaven are on the hands that hold you now I know the road you walked was anything but easy You picked up your share of scars along the way Oh, but now you're standing in the sun, you've fought your fight and your race is run The pain is all a million miles away The only scars in heaven, they won't belong to me and you There'll be no such thing as broken, and all the old will be made new And the thought that makes me smile now, even as the tears fall down Is that the only scars in heaven, yeah, are on the hands that hold you now Hallelujah, hallelujah Hallelujah, for the hands that hold you now There's not a day goes by that I don't see you

You live on in all the better parts of me Until I'm standing with you in the sun

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